I see that, and I don't like it when people say any group in general sucks. Well, pedophiles suck, but you know what I mean. And I think men are great. Just a lot of them are still sexist and I think it's important for non-sexist guys to be aware of that.

Based on my personal experiences- which of course are not representative of everyone's- more men than not are sexist, so I don't see saying "most men" as being incorrect. Perhaps I would phrase it it, "Most men I've interacted with are sexist" as opposed to simply "most men". And I do agree that people in general…

It's not bigotry to say that a lot of men are sexist. It sucks but it's true. A lot of white people are racist- again, not bigotry. Not all men are sexist and not all white people are racist. But pretending everything's equal and just hunky dory is flat out ignorant.

People who read articles about shows they don't watch just to post a comment that they don't watch the show are annoying. It's like people who are smug about not having a smart phone or a television or who say, "I only read literature." Great. You're really cool.

I thought the exact same thing! "If she wouldn't act this way I wouldn't have to hit her" kind of bullshit.

Ugh I hate this (not this Jezebel article, that made me chuckle out loud aka COL)- it's tired old nonsense that needs fuck right off. The message that women should take responsibility for their partners' behavior is such an unhealthy one, and sadly such a common one. I work with domestic violence survivors and I'm…

Agree, he really does have the best douche face. And I mean that as a compliment.

I liked it because I thought it was an amazing depiction of a sociopath. I love all of Gillian Flynn's books. They're not everyone's cup of tea but a hell of a lot better than much of the stuff on the bestseller list.

I didn't say writers are celebrities, I said it's akin to having to accept certain shitty aspects of the job. I'm not holding the writers to a different standard. I thought the OP was perfectly respectful and polite, and that Rebecca wasn't. You can't remotely understand why I would perceive Rebecca comparing someone…

I don't think there was a pile on- I think Rebecca tore her apart. Saying "they're using..." is a critique of Jezebel, whereas Rebecca's response was a personal insult to the commenter. I think sometimes people don't realize that when they comment it's TO the author- they think it's like Yahoo where you just post…

I'm a therapist. I work at a small nonprofit providing services for women with mental illness. I care very deeply about increasing awareness about mental health and decreasing stigma about seeking help. This story does neither of those things. At this point there is not enough info to say what this woman's issue is,…

She said she thinks the blog is using rubber necking headlines, and that it seemed like voyeurism to her. I think context matters here. She didn't call anyone a rubber necker or voyeuristic, and she was pretty clear that it was just her opinion. To me comparing someone to a MRA is intentionally insulting and in the…

I didn't say you shouldn't have opinions or react to things. I think it's great when writers respond to readers. But I don't think you did it respectfully, and I take issue with that due to the power differential in this situation. It's like a popular kid putting the smackdown on the shy kid. The popular kid knows…

She isn't dictating what topics should be important to women. She is saying what SHE prefers. She has every right to say that. I don't agree with what she prefers. But someone disagreeing isn't the same as shaming and silencing and judging. She specifically said, "This feels like voyeurism TO ME" and admitted that…

So anyone who disagrees with you is "tone policing" or "shaming"? I take this issue seriously too. I just think if you're going to make the claim that you're "incredibly" patient and understanding then demonstrate that. I'd just like to see a debate that's respectful, and comparing this woman (I'm just assuming the OP…

I totally agree that this kind of issue should be covered by Jezebel, and really, if people don't like it, they don't have to read it. That being said, I think your response to the OP is unnecessarily harsh and does not remotely demonstrate this patience and understanding you're talking about. You could have easily…

Well I hope you immediately took fewer notes. Random dude on bus knows best!

I hate it too, and I also hate being approached when I'm reading a book in public. Basically I hate being approached.

Hm, I guess it depends on what it was and how he asks. If he's demanding I wear makeup and heels daily, fuck no. I do think partners owe it to each other to try to maintain attractiveness (within reason, obv) and can see why it'd upset a guy if I just totally let myself go after we'd been dating for a while. If I love…

I see what you're saying. I definitely think there's a difference between preferences and unreasonable standards, and it sucks that some people can't see that. I prefer my legs shaved too so I get why a guy would. I would just resent it if he demanded it while refusing to keep himself groomed.