I see what you're saying. I definitely think there's a difference between preferences and unreasonable standards, and it sucks that some people can't see that. I prefer my legs shaved too so I get why a guy would. I would just resent it if he demanded it while refusing to keep himself groomed.

Some people might hold that against you and some wouldn't. It's not a gender thing. Guaranteed there are men out there who would be totally offended by someone expressing preference on their grooming habits. Also, you seem to be implying that we live in a society where men and women are not equal because society…

Say, "I know I don't have the right to dictate the way you look, and I think you're hot, but I feel even more attracted to you when you X Y or Z.What are your thoughts on that? What are your preferences?" Listen to his response. Decide what's a deal breaker for me. Not showering/brushing teeth? Probably a deal…

It's fine to have preferences as long as you're not a controlling dick about them (which is sounds like you're not) and also as long as you care about your girlfriend's preferences too. I'm a woman and I shave my legs and keep things trimmed, and I'd prefer my man to keep his privates well-groomed, to trim his nose…

OK.

Oh I see- it's morally acceptable to watch porn and keep the industry alive, but morally wrong to be in porn. Gotcha. It's moral to be a hypocrite. Whatever you say. You're right, I'm wrong, you're the moral champ. Huzzah! Three cheers for the morality champion of the world!! What a moment of triumph for you, I hope…

If society as a whole agreed with you, porn would not be a multi-billion dollar industry. I already conceded your moral superiority, ok? You win! Well done!

And you have the final say on morals. I understand and concede to your ultimate moral superiority.

Yes, so I guess I can see where you're coming from with this ageism thing. But to me it's more like, yo, grown ups, you should know better, what with your life experience and all. I don't think it's inherently toolish for people to date younger; I just think the spring breaking and the James Franco-ing things are…

I like Harry Potter and Sherlock too, hope you think I'm cool now!!!

You attributed it to Woody Allen in your post. Words mean things. Duh.

You're right about the dishing and taking. I'm just saying that while some of the comments seem to reflect genuine outrage, most of them seem to just be, ugh, what a tool (both about Franco and about the grown men spring breaking). There are also a lot of whiners acting like James Franco is a tragic victim which is…

The majority of the comments about both those subjects were making fun of Franco and of adults who still go on spring break. It's wonderful that you're so PC that you never judge and mock, but a lot of us are smart asses who like to make fun of things like this. Come on, those message between Franco and that girl- how…

It's actually an Emily Dickinson quote.

I wouldn't want my kid to grow up and be a fast food worker either, but that doesn't mean people who work in fast food lack morals and class. You don't want your kid to have a hard life, and working in porn seems like it'd open the door to a lot of difficulty and, clearly, judgment. I'm not saying working in porn is…

I know! I wish I could be friendly to everyone, but I have learned the hard way that I can't. We really can't win. If we get raped, it's because we put ourselves in a dangerous situation. If we try to avoid strange men because we don't know what they might do, we're mean bitches.

Hm, all the replies have been supportive and agreeable so far...

I think I pretty clearly defined the boundaries- consenting adults, no one's being hurt. But being judgmental is one of your morals I guess and I can't argue with that. Good for you. ;)

Morals: of, pertaining to, or concerned with the principles or rules of right conduct or the distinction between right and wrong; ethical: moral attitudes.

I hate the "let me ask for something innocuous/directions/what time it is and then turn creepy and gross" shtick. It makes me suspicious of ANYONE asking for direction or approaching me at all. Sorry you got flashed at age 12- that's so creepy.