Someone just made a joke that it wouldn’t be rape if he’d paid her. THAT IS DAMAGING. The mainstream view of sex workers is oppressive and damaging and perpetuates ideas like that they can’t be sexually assaulted. THAT IS DAMAGING AND VERY REAL.

Yet, I feel no sympathy for a woman who needs a SAFEWORD. Sorry.

Because consensual BDSM play has nothing to do with actual rape. Many sex-positive feminists engage in BDSM without it conflicting or cancelling out their feminist politics.