Oh man. This hair cut makes him look soooo much like Prince Philip. Kind of crazy I never noticed how similar they look.

I think trying my best to raise a good person and then having my kid turn out to be an asshole would be a nightmare.

I totally get where Arden is coming from. When I was pregnant, my bosses had no idea until I told them. By that time I was over six months pregnant.

The last time I ghosted any event was a year-end function. My coworkers and I form a tiny department of 5 people, we piggy-backed on Finance’s gig. We went there, drank most of the ciders, took over the dancefloor, hogged the karaoke machine, and then once the ride was confirmed, we bounced. Didn’t say bye to any of…

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I hear a young, not so confident,  woman with a lot of conditioning. Would that every young woman in a situation like this had the hutzpah to just say “fuck you - I’m outta here”. That would be progress.

I like how casually dismissive you are of the labor it takes to process trauma in order to admit victimhood. PTSD, anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, all of those drain the life right out of people and here you are, acting like it’s no big deal. And you’re incredibly wrong about millennials being “work shy”. There’s…

So you understand, but don’t like the answer it leads you to. I get it.

100%, great point.

Please read this and get back to me with the whole “She never said no...all she had to do was say ‘No” firmly”. But in case you don’t (just as you didn’t read the study cited in the article itself), let me highlight a few key points of 2 studies reviewed in my link (my emphasis):

“Not tonight”, “I don’t want to feel pressured”, “Maybe next time”... those are all things she said, and if you don’t think those are ways to say no, then all I can say is that I hope you’re very vocal about your thoughts on this in public so that women know you are not a person they should ever trust or be alone…

I think in some ways people like you are a bigger problem than the outright rapists. No one denies what they do is wrong. You? Listen to yourself. You are trying to normalize behavior that should never be considered acceptable in the first place.

I still do not think that a guy pressuring a girl to have sex is assault

Samantha Bee said it well. No one is disingenuous as to say Ansari is like Weinstein and that he should lose his job or be criminally charged. But if you are going to wear a #TimesUp pin and have a public persona as a feminist, you should know that your interactions with a woman was considered violating and coercive.

Exactly this..

Aziz went and made his whole fucking brand “woke feminist ally.” You don’t get to do that, then decide your new standard for behaviour on a date is “not criminally actionable.”

One can say “Just say no.” But why are we pretending that if someone is recoiling from you that humans don’t get that reaction. It’s one of the first verbal cues we learn.

It’s also very likely that a man who has written a book about modern dating where he elaborates on his habit of determining if a woman is uninterested in him simply by the tone and response time of her text messages is capable of gauging that a woman who recoils from his attempts of getting her to touch his dick for…

My view is that the reason men are reacting so badly to this accusation is that most guys who see themselves as decent people can easily look at Weinstein and think “I’ve never done something so awful and disgusting” but they hear this sort of accusation and they start to realise they have done this so it can’t be…

What’s mindblowing is that I have to believe that any who is calling Grace’s accounts as a “bad date” either didn’t actually read her story and are defending Aziz blindly because he’s “so great” or something OR people just don’t want to confront what they have done to others or what was done to them. There’s no mind…

I’ve always ghosted at parties. I hate saying goodbye to people. That’s why I always go alone. No I’m not rolling with my crew. I’ll meet you there. Because when I want to leave I’m leaving immediately. The ability to leave places immediately has kept me safe during my clubbing years. People would say why would a…