So you think lying to your partner about a fundamental part of your relationship (because that’s what cheating is) is okay

Please quote the place where I said my feelings were hurt.

Thanks for putting all those words in my mouth. That’s very honest of you.

Yet again, didn’t read. Don’t care.

So you think the best thing is to give your partner an ultimatum of either you have sex with me even though you don’t want to, I cheat on you or this marriage of, let’s say 15 years, is over?

Still don’t care, still didn’t read.

Okay, I’m not interested in talking to people who are needlessly aggressive to me. Goodbye.

In the paradigm where bigot evangelicals are correct about their theology?

What I am talking about is the best option when all the options are bad.

Don’t care, didn’t read.

Unless they don’t get caught, which is sort of my point.

I completely agree that it sucks for the spouse no matter what. I just think that cheating (assuming you don’t get caught) is the least sucky option.

“Sex is important to me” is not the same as “sex defines me.” It is not lying about who you are, it is lying about what you did.

Well considering that the way society creates morality is through general consensus, yes. There are cultures where most people have no problem with not just killing puppies, but eating them too.

Okay, but there’s no reason to assume in my scenario that they haven’t discussed this. I mean you can discuss “I love you, but don’t want to have sex anymore” all day and I don’t know that the best resolution to that is ending the relationship, especially if it’s one that’s been going on for years.

Well maybe it’s because you have autism, but that’s simply not the way most people interact with their loved ones. I think you will find that lying to your partner or your parents or your children if you think the truth will be too painful is something that most people have done.

I have actually seen right-wing crazies posting online make the serious claim that the killer was an ISIS terrorist because he targeted Christians.

Something tells me my wife wouldn’t approve of that.

Fair enough.

You think business partners never secretly do things that the other business partner wouldn’t like? Really?