Um......no. Just no to all of it. My wife does cam work; meaning she actually gets naked for men and puts on a show for them, and they pay her for her time. The very first question she asked me when she started to consider this job was “are you ok with this?”. Which I am because I know for a fact if I said no, she…

This is probably the best response to this I have seen. A member in the relationship made a large decision without consulting the other and appears to have actively gone against their wishes with potentially enormous impact.