yeah, i don’t get it!!! we’ve been brainwashed!!! working on my bf to be more open to this. hoping he’ll come around.

i just signed up to like this comment because this ad infinitum woman is really extraordinary up her own ass jesus

I think an argument can be made for ‘underlying cultural assumption” being what “forces” people to think a certain way.

I am willing to bet that a decent number of Ashley Madison account holders never act on it. Probably the thing I miss most now that I am a boring monogamous person is that initial flirtation and meeting with someone new. How exciting it was to get to know a new person, right before you discovered what an unbearable…

My original comment is the second comment in this whole thread, way up there at the top and it was exactly what I just said. You’re replying to a comment further down in the chain. I never changed my position.

You’re really a piece of work. I don’t even see where she said you’re defending monogamy.
Leaps everywhere!

My point was how pervasive it is and I completely agree with being accountable.I have said repeatedly in this thread that I am hoping people use this as a way to start an open honest dialog with their partners.

Well that zero person was right, I am going to agree to disagree and move on.

Her point is that just because a doctor is tall, it doesn’t mean all doctors are tall. I don’t really view what you said as you trying to assert a logical conclusion and I believe that’s the disconnect. I took it to mean you were saying that with the significant number of people on that site, there are probably a lot…

Let’s try to clear this up even if the end result is we agree to disagree. I do not care if I am right or wrong, I am not trying to die on a hill for a quick comment I made and to which you seem to have taken great personal offense.

This is the post in question
“Plenty of people are very happy in monogamous…

Agreed, completely. I’ve been really surprised by the vehemence over the hack here at Gawker.

JFC you’re full of yourself. I can’t speak to what someone else said but you seem fine doing so. I am going to copypasta so there is no confusion,

Regardless of what Dan Savage thinks, you are completely missing the point here. The point isn’t that the cheating is political in some way, it’s that most people exist within social constructs that have the potential to make it really difficult to be honest with themselves, let alone those around you. Immediately…

I ended up dismissing someone who kept saying I was saying things, I wasn’t. There are a number of people doing that in this thread.

It’s true, a large number of people are perfectly happy in monogamous relationships. A large number of people are also unhappy with monogamous relationships. Humans aren’t inherently monogamous creatures, but we aren’t inherently polyamorous creatures either.

I think that’s what she’s saying though. If people realized they didn’t have to be monogamous and find people with whom they could be in open or poly relationships with, they would be happier and it would lead to less betrayal because folks were being true to themselves and honest with others. Monogamy isn’t a bad…

I agree with almost everything you said...with an addendum to the “open marriages are becoming more accepted” part. While non-monogamy is more accepted than it was years ago, it is still not presented as a reasonable option in our culture. Most people don’t make an active choice between monogamy and non-monogamy -…

Oh totally I believe those play a role too, but I feel the rules are arbitrary personally because they seemed to change throughout history and are also dependent on things like religion. Some men can have many wives, some men cannot etc etc

“Plenty of people are very happy in monogamous relationships”, I think with only 3 zip codes in the entire US not having someone registered, there are lots of people who claim to be happy in monogamous relationships.

I’ve been thinking that it would be great if this opened a greater dialog on monogamy and relationships. I mean how many of these people are Christians who think that marriage is between one man and one woman? I am betting the number is pretty high. Clearly what we say, is not what we do.