And the more she hates herself the more disinterested he is, I want to shake her and hug her

Dean was also looking for an acknowledgment that his dad should have done better. Instead his dad got defensive and walked away. In the last few years, my dad apologized to me for drinking too much and working too much and not intervening when my mom was being awful to me. At 35, I told him that I had moved past it,…

Ugh I (TV) love Dean so much I would watch every second if he were the Bachelor

Super bummed Dean is too young to be the Bachelor. Would so much rather watch a whole season of him. Imagine, a Bachelor with self-awareness!

The Dean situation made me sad to watch not because of Dean/his dad, though obviously they have a lot to work through if they should choose to pursue a relationship, but because of how dismissive Rachel was of what Dean was telling her. “Have you tried talking to him about it?” seems just so tone deaf when someone is…

I wanted to slap Lydia for that move. Speaking emphatically does not equal yelling.

Lydia kind of looks like a Dugger

May you hear this auto-played in Hell.

Dean basically said point blank “don’t make me do hometowns if this isn’t real” just to get immediately kicked off after hometowns. I thought that was totally classless, especially when there’s another guy who has all but committed to not being committed.

I think it’s pretty impossible to get there without the other person giving an inch, and from what little we saw of his father, it seems quite possible that his father is too wrapped up in himself to accept the reality that things were shitty for Dean.

Dean strikes me as someone who can accept a person, flaws and all —…

Aunt Verna said Eric was ready. And I for one very much trust Aunt Verna’s judgement.

I lost a lot of respect for Rachel last night. Anyone with eyes knew she wasn’t going to pick Dean in the end, and she knew how difficult his family situation is, and she went along with doing the hometown and productions exploitation of this family’s pain just for ratings. Then told him she was falling in love with…

I see your point but he is young still. Generally it takes most people either having their own kids or turning 40 or so (whichever comes first) to see their parents are just people with no freaking idea about shit and usually (hopefully!) just doing the best they can most of the time.

I really liked and appreciated Dean’s post about his dad’s faith. You don’t see a ton of media representations of Sikh people, so it was great that Dean made a point to express his respect for the Sikh faith and clearly say that that wasn’t what he meant when he said his dad was eccentric. It confirmed my impression…

I immediately noticed what Dean’s dad is doing, because I see it in my own dad and father in law: It is narcissism. When dad said something like “I believe any criticism of me is really just a criticism of yourself,” the hairs stood up on my body. That’s what a narcissist says and does: Nothing is ever their fault,…

His aunt is an amazing speaker. I saw her speak at a convention and some of the things she said about bias and diversity I refer to again and again in my work. She has a great TED talk on those topics as well.

I generally don’t like spoilers, but this feels like one of those happy ending animal videos with a headline like, “see this abandoned puppy find his forever home!” so I’m OK with it. Glad to know he’ll be OK and get some free margaritas out of the trauma inflicted on him.

Yeah, Peter’s vibe is bugging me. Though I’m wondering if they’re doing this to make his “win” less of an obvious conclusion? I haven’t read spoilers, that’s just my take on who’s left. Don’t send me spoilers! I was also put off by Rachel’s comments about how if someone can’t decide they’re ready to marry someone…

Watching the scene with Dean and his father was so painful. His dad was a straight-up ASSHOLE, not just to Dean, but to Rachel as well. She seemed like she was trying to make the best out of what was a terrible situation, but even her charm and friendliness could break through. The talk between Dean and his father…