Thank you. It was really helpful to read everyone’s comments, but I didn’t expect to feel so paralyzed in response. Sort of feel like someone is holding up a mirror to my life and I don’t want to see it because it’s terrifying. I don’t know if I’m ready to separate from him, but hearing your thoughts and the echoes of…

Thank you—I attended my first al anon meeting yesterday. I’m pretty sure I’ll go back, although it was weird. It was a relief to be around people who understood.

We don’t have any family nearby. I’ve just started seeing a therapist and it’s been hard, but is helping. I’m considering trying to find some type of play group or play therapy for my daughter, just something to help me feel reassured about her healthily processing anything she’s observing. It’s hard without…

Honestly, what you wrote was really difficult to read because of how some of it resonated. I’m trying to figure out how much of the unhealthy, borderline abusive parts of our dynamic are a direct result of his alcoholism. Until his drinking became a problem, he never acted violently towards me or intimidated me in any…

Wow this is so much helpful information! Congratulations on your recovery and resolve. That is amazing.

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. He and our daughter have a great relationship and when he’s sober he is an incredible parent. My biggest anxiety is that their relationship will be damaged or that she will internalize and repeat when she gets older.

I’m a lurker, but I’m feeling really lost and desperate for advice: