I think that is an honorable position and I respect you for taking responsibility, but I still really feel strongly that blaming the other woman AT ALL, in any way takes agency away from the man involved. Here’s why: Even if another woman vigorously pursues a married man, he is responsible for saying no, setting…

Because tits are what get human women respect?

I found the toy analogy particular problematic. I was going to type up a response, but then saw yours.

We’re reading and discussing his actions on a national website, though. Sometimes the ripple effect is more important than the initial splash.

Look it’s very apparent you’re hurt, and I feel for you. I have been cheated on and it SUCKS. But you know what I did? I directed all my anger at my boyfriend because he’s the prick who went out and fucked other women while he was supposed to be committed to me. Do I like those other women? No. But I don’t blame them…

I disagree with you because the other woman is in fact doing nothing legally or morally wrong. She isn’t cheating on her partner. It’s not her responsibility to keep the husband true to his marriage contract.

“Even my toddler is able to learn to keep his hands off things that belong to other people!” <— right, cause THIS attitude is totally not psychopathic at all. nope. psa: no one owns anyone else.

i feel like we’re conflating about 40 arguments around here - who’s a fault, the ethics of bragging, what relationships are, peoples’ right to their own secrets, what type of people cheat and help cheat, etc - and we’re all losing because in the end, the answer to all of everything is ‘your relationship is about the…

Wendy went on record saying that Prince was controlling , egotistical, and essentially a nightmare to be around during the tour for the movie. I think Purple Rain is very much autobiographical and my friends and I always thought so when the movie came out in 1985.

And if you’re a black woman, heaven help your ass. I find Beyonce’s black-girl-magic-as-money-making machine schtick to be very smart. And I understand it, kind of. I guess what I’m saying is that I’m sad that Beyonce is so needed for black women to feel good/pretty/feminine about themselves. It’s embarrassing to me.…

Even in 1984, the misogyny was pretty over-the-top.

No, because it isn’t just about her new album. Every single album she has released for the past six years, maybe more, has had at least one song dedicated to her husbands unfaithfulness. Yes, art is a way to release pain, but after all the years doesn’t she have anything else in her life to influence her art? And like…

The conversation of black beauty is much more complicated than white women are the epitome of beauty. (Your statement is so broad is essentially becomes meaningless.) Black women will never be white so the ideal of beauty you speak of is completely unattainable. Unattainable beauty standards while interesting to talk…

All of this is just gross. Like, if Jay Z wants to cheat, fine. If Beyoncé wants to write a passive aggressive lyric about that, fine. If Rachel wants to brag about it on Instagram, fine. I. Don’t. Give. A. Fuck.

The criticism of Beyonce that does exist has always struck me as mostly uninformed and involves around what she wears. I’ve never once found her to not anything totally tasteful and put-together even when clad in attire these particular naysayers deem “too provocative for a feminist.” I don’t get that, but…

Agreed. Also the implication that girls don’t know how to fight comes off sexist to me. Why is nail scratching and hair pulling not considered fighting? Both are devastating and punishing (and I’ve seen men do it anyhow...see football for hair pulling). And I’ve seen guys fight, they look clumsy and awkward just as…

But they could vote for MURDER!

I disagree. I could perhaps understand it if some sort of ban was strictly applied to people convicted of violating election laws, but murder has almost nothing to do with political matters. It’s not as if allowing murderers to vote will result in the crime being legalized.

There are almost certainly tens of thousands of pedophiles and rapists across America who have never been caught, much less convicted of a crime, and their votes count the same as yours now. Grow up.

I think the influence of convicted murderers’ votes poses much less a threat than the danger of large swaths of citizens being disenfranchised via the prison industrial complex.