That line of thinking has been my logic and basis for q’s too. I am/was confused. A few years ago a Dr. who ran a weight loss clinic was bragging at a party I went to that the whole industry feeds people lies to milk $$$ and keep them trapped in a cycle. Ilistened intently. I kind of got the impression he was saying…

You too ;)

Yes, genuine dialogue ;) got it!

Oh, I get it now. You’re sincerity level is below zero as well. What I didn’t get is white automatically = pretty? Another commenter made clear that no one they knew thought white= pretty and that it was more about silky textured but still curly black hair in her community while another commenter stated that Rashida…

2 reasons. The comment had no context when I had literally mentioned that I am identified as white in most ways while my older siblings are black. So those q’s are willfully obtuse. In the past she has also tried it with the shit stirring q’s and pretty much trying to keep up the tradition. There wasn’t anything…

You reiterated what I said and addressed in my comments. Literally. I’m not offended by that at all.

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He’s a pimple faced skinny white kid trying to aggrandize himself in Egyptian God cosplay which is why his comment is so fantastically one dimensional. But you knew that .

Sorry! Old phone= bad kinja. Lots of typos and sometimes can’t reply. But I appreciate your kindness/openness!

:) Blair Witch/ Blair Bitch is the name good

Yes, I’ve been mocked about my hair texture. Yes, I’ve been called racial epithets (not cockroach tho) as stated my younger siblings and I pass for mostly white. It doesn’t mean we didn’t get flack from both sides. Much less an issue now that I’m older and my family isn’t around. At worst from time to time someone…

Yeah. I never really got that. Biracial but from way in the white boondocks. My two older siblings look black and me and my younger siblings look mostly white. So I’m white. I couldn’t wait to get out and find something else. But when I did I could not understand anything! Few years back I remember a newscaster was…

True. And that was my point. This whole time I’ve been in pause “Becky with the good hair?” A Chewbaca with purple hair was the only explanation I could get behind. You could argue but that is some good stuff. I do take slight offense that the term has picked up because it kinda implies like everyone is all jealous of…

Lol- I’m thinking the gist of it is that women are so worried. Like we look at each other and measure everything with some imaginary yard stick on the edge of our seats in a panic that some other woman might get some attention or take some dick and we just can’t bear it. We are just dying over it! So we have to have a…

I stand corrected then. Becky actually does have good hair. I concede. I was really trying to work this out prior. Help from the universe was needed.

Yes it absolutely is a mutually exclusive problem. If someone is not 100% responsible for the commitments they make in a relationship- that is exactly the problem because it means they aren’t committed and are playing a game. That is no one else’s fault. Be honest. Go ahead and start making those 50, 80, 95%…

Blaming a woman for breaking a promise she didn’t make and therefore isn’t responsible for? Saying that she has any responsibility for a man who specifically chooses to make a commitment, reap the rewards, and break it? Yep. That’s a gendered accusation. Women who play the blame game and keep taking these guys back do…

Nope. The girl isn’t the guilty party. The married man is. Bonus- you can keep the shitty dick and the shitty gendered accusation. I’m not into either.

That’s just it. This is a veiled attempt to blame women for what men do. It’s really not about ethics as much as it’s about getting the dude off the hook any way possible and going right back to the ignorance of being the only one committed in the relationship but without any responsibility for taking the cheating…

This article finally helped me get it. So I think the ripple effect is really important. I’ve been ok with the bathroom according the gender identification but really on the fence with extension to school locker rooms- which for the record I really don’t think students need to be publicly/communally naked together in…