and if black women were called the Kardashians Of Black People, VSB would have to go into the witness protection program.

I don’t know why I even said anything lol. Trump already makes me feel like I’m living in la la land, but seeing black men try to deny that toxic masculinity exists in their ranks because they’re black is blowing my mind. Am I fucking dreaming?

Ugh. I still hope she gets recalled.

I’m gonna be honest and say that I have no idea what you’re even trying to say here. I can’t believe y’all are really trying to deny this shit, though. This is wild.

I don’t quite understand how you can acknowledge that the problem is societal and then turn around and say I’m lumping abusers and victims together. Either you agree that a systemic problem needs to be addressed by the collective, and particularly the people whom it most affects, or you don’t. Furthermore, victims can…

Lmao, we should make it a class action lawsuit.

I don’t disagree with anything you’re saying.

And she’s a Democrat. Smh. I’ll actually be surprised if she doesn’t get recalled. What a dumbass. She must’ve been on Ambien.

I really hope Jill Scott isn’t petty enough to file a restraining order while holding on to his stuff after he asked for it back. That’s an inherent contradiction, and I like and respect her too much to believe she’s the kind of person who would do that.

I’m really shocked with the way this thread turned out. Shocked.

On one hand, you’re right. There’s more to the “solution” than what I mentioned, but I wasn’t trying to offer a catch-all solution. All I said was that I thought this article should be on VSB. And, yeah, I know that black men are not a monolith and can’t all be lumped into one category.

Gary is a really weird place in the same way that Detroit is weird (or used to be, before the hipsters started showing up). They’re both kind of creepy, but I’ve also felt an urge to move to both places because they’re so fucked up and forgotten that they seem like the only places where I could live in a community of…

Black men face a special set of obstacles when it comes to discussing sexual assault. It’s not about me admitting anything. It’s a fact. I’m sorry I gave you the impression I thought otherwise.

I wasn’t here for that. I’ve been off and on Kinja for years now, but inevitably somebody makes me mad and I end up taking a long break, lol. I would go find that article, but the comments would probably make my head explode.

Yeah, the wife changed the subject super quick. That part of the interview is the most interesting part, actually. (Speaking of, that interviewer really needs to learn how to edit down to the good parts of conversation, lol; the couple was saying a lot of good stuff, but every single little thing they said didn’t…

It is what it is. The funny thing about it is that if anyone understands what it’s like to feel like you just can’t win, it’s black women. Why would I try to tear down my own? I’m just asking black folks to be real about this shit. But whatever.

cishet (I’m assuming) black men are the white people of black people

First of all, how is this not a #notallmen situation right here?

Can’t find where I said black men are sexist and never talk about gender issues. This is literally an article about a black man talking about gender issues. What I was trying to say and maybe didn’t get across very well is that I think black men need to show up in support of Terry Crews and lend their voices to this…

Point to where I said “all black men are to blame for my family member’s assault.” I can’t find it. I’m pretty sure I was talking about toxic masculinity. Can you also point to where I said racist stereotyping of black men doesn’t exist? I can’t seem to find where I said that either. Not reflecting white hegemonic…