I think he gets a say if you want to do something that jeopardizes the baby. But decisions like whether or not you want a natural or medically induced birth, a Caesarian, epidural or no epidural, in a tub, in a house with a midwife, whatever - he only gets a say in that if you want him to have a say.

I have only expressed an opinion once, to a very dear friend who gave birth in an apartment with no assistance whatsoever. No midwife, no nurse, not even her mother. Because I was afraid that she would legitimately die. Her reasoning was that women for centuries gave birth unassisted, and maybe that's correct (she…

Reminds me of one of my mom's favorites: It would have been nice if I had been born rich instead of beautiful.

I thought those were Tom's for a minute.

This does ignore the fact that not all pedophiles are single or coming to a park alone. I get that it definitely does reduce risk. But I wonder if it almost creates a false sense of safety?

They said he came down the chimney! And then we moved to a house with no chimney and they said he was magic and could beam in, like Star Trek! Lies! All lies! No wonder I couldn't figure out how to keep that terrifying bastard out of my house.

This reminds me of when I attended a Baptist school. It would have been the early to mid-90s, and there was a boycott against Proctor and Gamble because their logo had a goat's head or something? And this was clearly a sign of the beast because sometimes Satan is depicted as a goat? Or something?

My grandmother was perceived in this way by a lot of people. I wouldn't say she was bitch. She was the strongest woman I ever met, and she is the whole reason I am a feminist. She never called it that, and probably would have said she wasn't one, but she taught all her "girls" that we should stand up for ourselves,…

Exactly. Also, the cooling off period is a good idea. I might say a lot of shit in the heat of the moment when the anger is still fresh. After a period of time to really calm down I generally am much better at expressing what I mean to express without escalating into a screaming match where I shout things that can't…

My husband's tip for a happy marriage is verbatim, "Marry someone who thinks farts are funny and who doesn't run screaming from the room when you have to fart."

I personally make the bed with one and either put the other one away in the closet or fold it across the foot of the bed.

Yes on the separate blankets.

In fairness, she's still really young to be as good at as she is. I was still super serious about myself and took everything personally when I was 23.

I actually really love this.

Personal anecdote and not recommended for every life situation (obviously), but my mother met a "better fit" while married to my dad. My dad was abusive to her before and during the marriage, and she had gotten to the point where she believed that she deserved to be treated terribly and that even if another man…

I mean, I feel like this is a story only if they got caught doing it in the sanctuary before the service. Since she was officially married I'm really not getting why this is a huge deal.

I kind of wish I had gone with my original plan and become a librarian. It's my dream job.

My grandmother sewed me a white cotton nightgown that was an exact replica of Samantha's. There are pictures. It is objectively adorable, even though I always hated it. (I wanted Molly, not stuffy old Samantha!)

I have a nearly mint condition Samantha from 1991. Seriously, my mom basically never let me play with her because she was so expensive. Anyway, I have sold some of the clothes and accessories and made about $300. I still have her art kit, some outfits, the trunk, and a couple of other accessories. If anyone would like…

The kitchen I volunteered at a couple of times a month was shut down for this reason. The kitchen was located downtown in a church fairly close to a shelter (which was also shut down because it was close to the river front where the rich people want to be able to enjoy their view without being confronted with the site…