Hi I'm a long time reader and had to make an account on this because I've experienced this. I had a long time friend (male) who knew I was a lesbian and for the most part accepted it. I knew he was attracted to me, but for the most part we were like bros — hanging out, drinking beer, eating pizza, playing video games,…

To generalise that rape is not about sexual desire but control is some sophomoric bullshit. Rapes happen for all kinds of reasons, and simplistic, one size fits all characterizations of it’s causes are pure ideology.

Doesn’t this idea completely ignore the fact that a rapist - by definition - doesn’t give a shit if you’re on a sex strike or not? Like.. they’re fucking *rapists*, Spike.. what the fuck are you even talking about?