That is absolutely horrifying. I’m so sorry that happened to you and that the hotel staff were unhelpful. I realize this was a long time ago, so I’m not asking for any reason except my own curiosity because I live in Seattle, but do you remember what hotel it was?

Came here for spooks and got the sads :( in a good way though. Beautiful albeit very sad story.

A mouthy social worker went to a bar to sing karaoke with some friends from college. A state senate intern who was lifelong friends with the college buds came along. The mouthy social worker and the intern sang a duet together and had a fun evening. They didn’t see each other again until 5 years later, when they ran…

Meanwhile, I know someone who works at amazon in a program management capacity who got burned out and went to put in her notice, and instead they begged her to stay on and gave her the whole summer off on paid leave and the chance to pick whatever project she wants upon return. It’s infuriating. They have the capacity…

That ‘candy stick’ they reference in the excerpt is a chocolate bar called a flake and it is delightful. An ice cream cone with a flake is called a 99, for some reason, and it is also delightful.

Yeahhhh seems a bit weird to complain about people doing something that makes them unhappy when you’re getting yourself all worked up over something completely unnecessarily...

I’ve been in situations like this. A couple years ago, there was a guy I had met at a party and hit it off with, we went on a date, and hung out in a group setting. The final time was a group setting, and we kissed a few times but he was getting too handsy for me, especially in front of friends, and I told him that.…

Repeatedly is the key word there. If you have to be repeatedly told to slow down or stop, you’re not listening. You should stop the first time and then *not do it again* until you’re given a clear go ahead.

By repeatedly trying again, in some cases after just a few minutes had passed, he WAS ignoring her objections. That doesn’t make it assaultive or predatory, but it does go beyond “bad date” and “bad sex” into shitty pressuring behavior.

Pressuring someone into sex, or trying to, is still shitty.

It’s the “every time she expressed hesitation or said she wasn’t comfortable with something” thing that’s the problem... she shouldn’t have had to express that more than once. She flat out said she didn’t wanna go further until a second date. Instead of respecting that, he tried to pull some nonsense about what if I…

I mean... when I was raped, I was technically free to leave at any time as well. But I’d been drinking, and at first I felt confused because the guy and I had been flirting earlier in the evening and he seemed nice. But then he repeatedly pushed himself on me after I indicated verbally and non-verbally that I didn’t…

You’re posting this about your $85 tickets everywhere, but like.. multiple people have posted very different experiences and yours doesn’t negate theirs? Not sure why you seem to think it does.

As someone who used to read his blog and his books, let me say a resounding “fuck you” re: “would women buy my books if they were degrading?”

It’s almost like many, maybe even most or all, young women go through a “cool girl” phase of internalized misogyny where we’ve so deeply accepted the message that we should…

When is that stated? I don’t remember that in the books

It isn’t in the DSM (diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders) so officially, no it isn’t a real thing. There’s no consensus among professionals about its legitimacy but those who believe it’s a true disorder say it’s every bit as damaging as drug addiction.

Most of the traditions have little or nothing to do with religion, or at least not christianity, and it’s very easy to avoid what few inherent religious overtones there are. I love christmas, but I am not and never have been religious and nor has my family. For us it has just always been a nice, happy time to break up…

I’m one of the obnoxious people who loves christmas and starts listening to christmas music preeeetty much right after halloween. I *try* to keep a lid on it so as not to annoy the ever loving shit out of my much more scrooge like friends, but fuck, this year I’ve already started planning a couple different secret…

Getting a new pack of pills isn’t as easy as all that - insurance companies and pharmacies have rules and schedules about refills. And lets say this happened on a saturday, when the pharmacy was closed, which it would also be closed on sunday, so the absolute earliest she’d have been able to replace her pack - if her…

Not to mention it sounds like they were out of the country when this happened? So even if her insurance or pharmacy were willing to replace the pack, it wouldn’t have been possible right away and missing even just a couple pills means you have to use back up protection at least until you start your next pack.