It’s 100% possible to hold her captor responsible while also taking her word for it that being forced to look at and then recreate porn made an already horrific experience worse.

Just based on what goes on our animal evolutionary ancestors, I think it’s pretty safe to say that raping and abducting women goes back to even before we first started creating art.

I guess that my question is this. The current type of porn - mainly targeted st the CIS gendered male gaze market, even with consenting participants - isn’t pushing what I would describe as stories of sexual identity or liberation. I am not about shaming anyone’s sexuality or expression of that but this softly, softly…

Your position is ridiculous. There are *countless* non religious studies that have come to the same conclusions: hard core pornography is addictive, has a destructive effect on intimacy and relationships. In this particular instance this is a woman from a religious background and this is a group that would seem to…

There actually is a correlation between certain types of porn and violence against women. The fact that you will not acknowledge or even entertain that fact makes you just as rigid as those who want to criminalize all pornography. Your attitude makes you just as harmful to society as theirs does.

I see the reflection of reality in porn. And I don’t think erasing it is going to do anything to change reality. I think reality needs to change. Porn will follow suit.

it’s not academic to me as a woman who wants to date hetero men who all seem to be steeped in pretty misogynistic porn (because it’s hard to find guys that aren’t). to me it is very real and present in my life and it is very practically applicable to want to be able to talk to men about the porn they consume and how…

Right, that’s why I think why not take this avenue and study this aspect of sexuality and deviancy. At worst we don’t know anything more than we do now, but maybe we learn something.

Yeah, I think ANYTHING can be a trigger for an addict. And we can’t take away booze because abusers get drunk before they abuse. We do have some work done on identifying triggers and helping people who want help but as far as I know, we’ve got a lot to learn about sexual deviancy. It's not a well understood subject.

I mean I get that for most people it is normal and healthy and fine. I’m talking about abusers where it is clear that the porn is part of their cycle/pattern of abuse. I don’t know if I’m being clear or if I can without laying out and describing some pretty disturbing shit. Like, I guess I just mean that a lot of…

You missed the part where viewing porn, not mental illness or zealotry, gave the rapist/captor ideas for new ways to assault ES.

Not upset by your comments, I’m upset that there are millions of “feminists” in this world who claim they can’t see patriarchy in commercially-available images of men brutalizing women

Most of the partners I had who were really into porn made sex into something more difficult than it had to be. One partner needed these very specific scenarios and approaches in order to keep performing. He always needed to be really dominant and he always wanted to keep trying porn-specific things, some of which I…

I had an ex whose porn habit eventually negated our real life sex. My best friend had the same situation. In both cases, sex drives and sex life was active and regular, until fascination with porn took over. Then “regular”sex was not interesting anymore. It had to be some version from the magazines or videos or…

I don’t like my bf watching porn alone. I know that is not very “sex positive” but I don’t like it. I am pretty open minded but I would rather it be an occasional thing we do together.

Wasn’t good in our case. For about a year he has been a “no-fapper” which has led to a reduction of porn use, and things in our sex life are much better.

Seriously. I’m not sure how accurate they are (as is the case with any study), but some “studies have shown” that men who consume large amounts of porn can’t even get it up for “real” women anymore. They look at a certain very unrealistic ideal and no flesh and blood woman can fulfill that fantasy.

I don’t think I can be convinced that porn is healthy for men. Ladies, whose boyfriends/husbands are pornheads, tell me honestly and not the “sex positive, politically correct, men pleasing” version, do your partners porn habits mean great/improved sex with better, more frequent orgasms for you personally?

Genuine question, do you think that boys can be both raised to respect all women and be raised on porn at the same time?