OMG did I violate your safe space?

This has nothing to do with “how people deal with grief.”

Right? She’s like the best at pretending to be sincere.

Oh, thank fucking God we got Madonna’s take on this.

He is a commercial photographer.

I don’t get why people work with him.

You sound terrible.

Or you could learn to accept that people deal with their emotions differently, and you really have no more right to insist that a man changes than he has to insist that you do.

But those conversations are yet another piece of emotional labor performed by women, for men who can’t/won’t do it for themselves.

And for another thing—even if women are better at feelings due to a lifetime of wallowing in them, as Jess Zimmerman lays out so poignantly in her essay about the hours and hours of agony aunt duty she’s filed in her lifetime—it’s still exhausting, time-consuming, and damaging.