Yup, that’s exactly it. It took me so long to realize that I viewed every dude as basically “my ex with different hair” haha it wasn’t until I said something to a friend about how sex and relationships were too hard because it’s always fighting and drama and she responded “that only if it’s unhealthy” that it clicked…

Yup, I’ve been there, I had a really nasty ex (that I dated for two years!) that basically convinced me I was broken. That I should just give up on sex. And so I did. And I regret that cause fuck that guy, you know? And you’re right about the courage, being open and honest w your dude is going to take so much courage…

But is that really a healthy way to do this?

Oh Girl I relate to this so much. I read some of your replies about needing foreplay/not orgasming from p in v and I know that life. I’ve got endometriosis and I have had dudes make me feel shitty about sex hurting or not coming from sex. I had bad unsatisfying sex for years w guys that didn’t deserve me. Then I…

I gotta agree with Thorin, above. Gotta bring it up, not in the bed, try to keep it positive, but get going soon! Also, how is it that the guy hasn’t noticed that you are not climaxing? I mean, that’s 16 sessions in which, I assume, there has been no thrashing, no screaming, no biting, no writhing and begging, and so…

Ugh, that is tough. Do you guys ever sext or phone sex? Maybe it would be a way to pretty explicitly tell him what exactly gets you off in a sexy way rather than a you-need-to-do-better way? My husband and I spent a long time dating long distance, and even though we had great chemistry from the start, I think all the…

No worries, hope things work out! And if they don’t with this dude, I know you’ll find someone who can blow your mind eventually :) <3

I can’t even figure out if this guy knows that it’s an issue.

Sounds like the last guy who got mad when you tried to bring up what gets you off was a dick. Sorry about that.

Yeah, that’s going to take some serious intro. Hmmm.

Are there certain positions or acts that usually work for you? Is it that you two aren’t doing those certain things, or they aren’t working like they normally do? Do you feel like it’s because he’s not doing enough or it just isn’t clicking? Does you guys switch it up a lot or is it kind of the same routine every…

If you don’t say something, you’ll never get an answer to your question, and you might never have an orgasm, which will end the relationship anyway.

The idea may have been that President Obama was supposed to make a victory fist.

no, he is not a “good dude”

What should she do? In concrete terms, what is the right thing for her to do in your opinion?

I honestly think human babies are some of the least-cute mammal babies. Sometimes I feel like a robot when people are like, “Oh, aren’t you the cutest thing!” to a baby and I’m like, excuse me, have you literally never seen a puppy?

Any parent/ guardian Jezzies out there make their kids Valentine’s this year? My 4 year old specifically requested “zombie” valentines which we obviously weren’t able to find at any store, haha. I ordered some gummy brains on Amazon, bought a clipart zombie cat on Etsy, and used my Silhouette to put it all together: