That isn't true. Feminism is about loving all people, as people, and giving them all equal chances. As men in Denmark have long realised, feminism gives them the chance to share the work stress and actually have time with the children they created. And to relieve their feelings and not keep it all inside in the macho…

Wait wait wait. Upset after the fact is rape? It is perfectly possible to start off wanting to have sex, then find the guy is really bad at it, and afterwards he treats you like shit and feel upset. There is also the whole business of 'being nice' A thread a while back had a lot of women, me included, stating we had…

Except, as Mr Texas said, when the woman wishes to cover up the fact of infidelity. And a panicky accusation would not take into account the rape kit, etc. This where I am guessing most false accusations would cease, actually, but there will always be people who start something going and dont have the guts to say:…

I mean, if JayRice4 is on the panel, it's a foregone conclusion...

Well, if there is not enough evidence to prosecute, as decided by trained professionals, then there is certainly not enough to be decided by a student and an admin and a teacher. How the hell are they to find evidence? It is coming down to who you believe, and that isn't good enough. And to make the decision like…

By definition, a victim can have no responsibility. A poor choice of words. Girls are actually told to watch their intake because there are predators around. They are told to keep their drinks with them because they may get spiked. They are told to hang with friends because they can look out for each other. What they…

Because robbery, etc, isnt about people? There are no other agendas involved?

But he isnt doing that. he is talking about one specific case. He is saying, it happens. And making the excellent point that this is a serious issue and should be dealt with by the courts. I didnt know that most colleges use these student/faculty panels. That is outrageous. There are always going to be agendas. If you…

Would you ever believe a friend of yours could lie? If a situation exists where only a woman will be believed, then there are women who will realize that power. All world history shows that people of both genders will abuse power. And some people are just sociopaths, as Mr Texas said. Some of those people are female.

So does this mean if a girl wakes up next to an ugly guy, or a poor guy and she normally would never hook up with someone of such appearance, she can assume she was raped?

And as Mr Texas says, that was the issue. It was all he-said she-said. It is not fair to only believe the girl. These cases should be tried in the courtroom.

Your comment isn't making sense. It may be foolish to dance naked in front of a predator: but from what you are saying, that gives the predator the right to rape her. If you leave money on the porch and someone steals it, that may have been silly on your behalf, but the thief is a criminal. "Silly' and 'criminal" are…

And how are you to know when someone is incapacitated? If that person is walking and talking and apparently enthusiastic, how are you to know when they are actually black-out drunk? Lots of people are like this: I am one. I dont drink at all anymore, for this reason I am totally ambulatory and apparently conscious but…

Still, she makes a good point about these three person panels. This does not sound like a good way to decide guilt or innocence to me. What are the qualifications for serving on such a panel and who are they soliciting to do it? It's got a kangaroo court sound, without a doubt.

She did come up with 'refudiate'. Not everyone coins a word. My student coined the word 'lotterarily" to mean 'absolutely totally random in the manner of a lottery'. I like both of these.

Sounds wonderfully emo and heroin chic. Dolores…as in dolorous…as in Dolorous Gard. It's got a great echoey doomy sound

Errm, the crazy clingy woman. LW didnt say which country she is living in: could it be Asia? Not familiar with that many countries, but as an expat in Hong Kong, I am more careful around Chinese friends because they don't seem to have that casual 'bye-now!' attitude to friendship and in the UK, I would term some of…

How about the catcalls of Oscar da Costa in Fear and Loathing: "I just got back from Veet-nam! You guys want some heroin? Shoot! Smack! Jab it right into your fucking eyeballs!"

So it just goes to show that there is no such thing as ugly. It really is all about flaunting it. I saw a girl in HK once, a Westerner who was a very big lass indeed, but she had great hair, very thick and curly and a lot of it. She was wearing some outfit that creates a waist, and bright red shoes…but it was all in…

Eww what a visual. Keep your creepy old guy eyes to yourself, I'd've been thinking if that'd been me. Isn't it amazing how youth and good looks make a difference. I was actually assaulted once in Thailand: nothing to be done about it and it was absolutely vile, but I remember thinking that if the guy had been old and…