bessmarvins
bess marvin, girl detective
bessmarvins

Then you’re choosing your own comfort over doing the right thing.

I generally end friendships with people who question my right to exist, my right to equality and my very humanity.

I’ve done with my inlaws and my daughter. There have to be consequences for actions. My inlaws have racist homophobes for years. I’ve warned them and limited access to their granddaughter adn tehy would behave. Then she would come home from an overnight and tell me some new horror they stated as “fact”. No more.

You must have forgotten. I have had to call you out before on your attitude in comments when it comes to Blackness, Black culture, etc. Any article about Black stuff would result in you “well, actually-ing” Black people in the comments, assuming things about us, and telling us all about our culture and our history. I

Yeah, I’ll be damned if I’m required to both be a victim of racism and teach white people all about racism and why they shouldn’t be racist, all while giving them hugs to make them feel better about how hard it is to be white and have racist friends and family right now.

white fragility/understanding>actual well being of everyone else

“Why are they still your friends?”

“If you think this is just about “political leanings,” you are in denial”

If this thread delves into why POC need to be allies to help white people understand why they are racist.....have mercy. I got into it with another commenter last week and she accused me of respectability politics. She was absolutely right and I’m ashamed of myself because of it.

Seems to be a lot of people with assholes friends around here. Why, doe?

Of course you would say some shit like that, mekki. No, my friends aren’t carbon copies of me, but I’m a Black woman so I can’t be friends with people who support a racist and his policies, no matter their bullshit reasoning why supporting a racist doesn’t make them actually racist. I’m sorry it hurts the feelings of

If you think this is just about “political leanings,” you are in denial. I’m a Black woman, so I CAN’T “be friends” with an Orange Man supporter. Those people at worst are straight-up racist, and at best, don’t give a fuck either way but are cool with it to get some other thing they want out of the situation. Their

Why are they still your friends?

***Your handle*** I was always George Frayne, boyishly charming and attractive sidekick to Nancy D in our Girl Detective games. I surpassed her, too.

Between this and this

Kate I’m really confused as to why Jezebel has not written about the rather surprising (to me anyway) fact that the majority of white women voted for Trump. Despite his patent misogyny. Surely this is a big story? Especially in the light of claims that have been made in the past about the role of white women in

I told my dad’s side of the family to go fuck themselves. We were never particularly close, but considering that the majority of them voted for Trump when one of my uncles is a first generation Muslim immigrant from Morocco, I don’t want to be around them and I don’t want my future children around them. They’re not

I don’t get this way of thinking at all. Here’s the thing, if someone says “white people fucked up by doing insert stupid thing here” and you didn’t do that stupid thing then why are you upset? No one is talking about you.

white people using black people and minorities to do all the work for them is american as fuck

Yea I didn’t give a fuck this election, people know how I feel, if you wanna spew your right wing babble then I can talk about my beliefs and I can also decide that you’re not someone I want in my life, I’m over this shit, this isn’t how decent human beings act.