I’ve read some interesting articles about why men expose themselves to women. They state that it is this sexual resentment that is channeled into misogynistic rage, in so much that the sexual release of it is the fear and horror you cause in the woman. Basically to show her that she is powerless to do anything, and…

i distinctly remember using “queer” out in the world as an elementary school kid (maybe 2nd grade?) as a synonym for strange/weird, because i was on a Nancy Drew kick and the word features prominently in that ‘60s mainstream vocabulary. i remember it so clearly because my dad and older sister literally stopped me in…

Only the women of colour received an answer from their harassers.

I try to be a little more forgiving of the parents. Nasser groomed them, too. After all, he was a a high-powered doctor who was hand-picked by MSU/USAG and treated Olympians. Who were they to question his methods? This whole thing is awful.

There we go, it was the parents’ fault. Fuck off.

Charitable explanation: because it didn’t involve football

What’s the major difference between Penn State’s handling of Sandusky and Michigan State’s handling of Nassar? Considering their dropping the ball actually involved athletes (since claiming it had nothing to do with football was the cowardly way of not having to hold the Nitts responsible), why hasn’t the NCAA done or…

FINALLY someone decided to point this out. I have low standards for tabloids, but to see sites like People breathlessly covering this woman’s makeover/redemption (and thus putting money in her pocket) without bothering to mention why she even needs to be redeemed is so completely sickening. No amount of makeup or…

Anyone with a sense of justice would support some sort of law that any NDA is invalid if it’s being used to conceal illegal activity on behalf of any party...or something like that. Similar to exceptions that are made for lawyers, doctors etc. when it comes to confidentiality. I’m not a lawyer (obviously), but that…

Not deliberately misreading, just pissed off. I agree that what Ansari allegedly did was not, legally speaking, sexual assault. I also think that’s a strawman argument — something doesn’t need to be illegal to be wrong (or “shitty”) and to deserve a public airing.

For what it’s worth, I’m 39, and firmly #TeamGrace. She was naive and didn’t really know how to handle herself in a sexual situation gone bad, but I think we’ve *all* been unsure of ourselves in that realm at some time. We’ve all made mistakes that made us vulnerable. (If you can honestly say you haven’t,…

It’s really not that hard. If you have to persuade/cajole/“soften up” someone, don’t do it. If you’re not getting clear, enthusiastic consent, don’t do it. You might get laid less, but the alternative is much worse.

the slapping and yelling wasn’t because women were better, stronger, gutsier, or grittier in the old days: this struggle was tied up inextricably in female purity and the stakes a woman faced in her eventual, and all but obligatory married life—where, by the way, once there, she had no recourse should her husband…

On verbal and non-verbal communication:

It’s a troll post. The edit is a dead giveaway.

It is so real — I was immediately talking about the situation, the coercion, consent etc. on a group text with three of my best friends because it struck such a chord. I’m hoping for more follow-up and discussions.

“And to suggest that sticking your fingers down a woman’s throat on the first hookup is unexpected - please get out more.”

Um...what?

Going to someone’s place does not mean you consent to any and all sexual acts following your arrival there, and this idea is damaging as fuck.

If you consent to vaginal sex but not to anal sex, but someone has anal sex with you anyway, when you didn’t consent to it, would you say “Oh but I went back to their place so…

Jezebel, What Are You Doing? Days of silence on the topic, and then what comes forth is not actually the thinkpiece on sexual coercion and the “ways consent can feel blurring”, on how predators purposefully use bullshit excuses about “miscommunication” to get away with it, about how Ansari is more representative of…

the editors of Babe were . . . courting a bad faith conversation