If you have been walking around in the world at any point in the last thirty years you might have picked up on the fact that the word “judge” is now often colloquially used to indicate “shame” or “unwarranted dismissal,” not merely “assessment,” and so these two statements don’t contradict each other at all (one can…

It’s like you are inside my head, these were my big three takeaways. Kennys a gem, Josiah’s story is very sad but it doesn’t make his possessiveness and self-focus any less worrying, and Why oh why did she choose the wrong Blake?!

I don’t know why you think I haven’t read the Feminine Mystique, why you’re conflating 1960s era social pressures for women to marry with people in 2017 choosing consciously to have children in their 20's, or why you think there aren’t people of all family formation types that end up bitter and angry. My point is,…

I am so glad that your choices have made you happy and your family healthy - but the attitude of this whole comments section that for having kids in your 30s to be good having kids in your 20s has to be bad I find very frustrating. For you, waiting was great. For others, having kids in their 20s has nothing to do with…

Methodism’s history is one of being very diverse by region, really adapting to whoever the people are and having very few required creedal commitments beyond God/Jesus/Communion/Baptism and connected to one another by big mission projects like the Committee on Relief but not necessarily connected by how they worship…

I think it has stuck in people’s craw not because it’s the worst, but because it would have been so easy to avoid and the research is so suggestive of its damaging effects on adolescents, it’s one of the most frustrating of the bad choices.

He was wrong and should resign no matter what. But I was so confused by this particular justification I looked up Hialeah trying to follow his racist logic - wondering, is it majority Black and he’s deluded? Local unique use of slang words? Something something? And no, it’s 75% Cuban. NOT EVEN THE RIGHT TYPE OF…

Actor identity issues are a thing, but they aren’t this thing. In this case I believe the concern of a segment of fans was that there have been kisses between the characters that were for titillation purposes but where the chemistry will never be followed up on with a real relationship. You can have crumbs, queer…

Stephen Colbert genuinely did this - played a character who held views different from his own, under his name, in a performance art way. But the line between real person and character could be found in out of character interviews, in winking aspects of the show, in it’s clearly delineated beginning and end times, his…

Yeah, I also found this confusing - is the expectation that DCFS child advocates or the parents are supposed to be enough? The particular training and experience of going through the medical/legal/emotional aftermath of sexual assault seems like it would be useful to survivors of any age...

A fifteen year old made vulnerable by family situation and being approached by an adult isn’t capable of consenting to sex work.

I remember seeing her on a British panel show a couple years ago and being very confused because from my perspective it seemed like she just didn’t have a sense of humor - took jokes as attacks, was very defensive to things I couldn’t see slight in, etc., in ways that I just hadn’t seen in anyone before. If she was…

I think many women saw in themselves the phenomenon the book describes, of either leaving before you leave or fearing going for it because you know how hard it will be, and so it spoke to that part of them. The problem is that while that can be a thing, it is by no means the reason why women are under represented and…

The problem is the dress code, as has been pointed out dozens of times above and in ongoing conversations about school and corporate dress codes. Dress codes for children are overwhelmingly harsh and sexualizing towards girls’ bodies and dress in a way they aren’t of boys, and tend to prohibit the most comfortable and…

I love this article because it gets at exactly what is great about Bruno Mars - his combination of talent and straightforwardness. It’s like he woke up one day and said “I like singing, dancing, sex, and fancy stuff. I’m going to become really good at all the first two things so I can make people happy and have the…

I know a lot of men who act like adults and own their s***. It’s not that hard.

AND SHE DOUBLES DOWN TWICE! Says a stupid ignorant thing, is given the opportunity to walk it back, chooses instead to walk right on forward on the road of inappropriate workplace racism. What. the. Hell.

I hear this, but one reason I appreciated it was that it made it really clear that is wasn’t a sick joke anyone had played on either picture - I feel like some people wouldn’t even have heard Barry’s words if they were still thinking it was some awful prank, and Beatty’s announcement at least allayed that.

The things they said were perfectly reasonable and warranted but even if they weren’t, MOUTHING OFF IS NOT ILLEGAL OR DANGEROUS IN ANY WAY. I am a woman who lives in the world, so people on the street constantly say stupid stuff to me and challenge me and get in my physical space in ways that are actually invasive. I…

I don’t think it’s celebrity worship - it’s that he and Milo are almost exactly the same dude. White men with money and access who haven;’t experienced many obstacles in their life and so assume when other people talk about obstacles they are exaggerating, and who more than that and most of all have a deep conviction…