This is an instance where I don't really care about the grammar. Besides, you can just do John and Jane Doe and be done with it.

It's 2014. Why the hell is this still an issue? Didn't we go through this crap in the 70s, when people had divorced parents? Was I so fucking revolutionary in the 80s to keep my real name upon marriage, aka my "maiden name" ? Don't women have their OWN NAMES yet? [screams, punches drywall]

I love etiquette and I think it can be very useful in encouraging respectful, considerate behavior - but some traditions just need to die, and this is one of them. Address people the way they want to be addressed! That is etiquette.

Yes. We're oppressed in different ways. That's a way you're oppressed that I'm not. Hence different from my situation.

We don't have to be against each other. I don't get why you don't see this. By your logic, a gay person who stays in the closet their whole life, marries a person of the opposite sex, and has sex with them is obviously heterosexual, not gay. We all know that there have been people who were (and still are) forced to…

Yes, you are trying to erase them. Your attitude is horrible, and sounds just like what L and G people say to invalidate our identities.

As another bisexual, I will put on *my* Expert cap and robes and say this is ABSOLUTELY bi-erasey.

No. Human beings have the right to self-identify. Just as it is impolite to tell a light-skinned African-American woman that she isn't really black, and impolite to tell a trans woman who still has male characteristics that she isn't really a woman, it is impolite to declare that bisexual people's inner feelings…

By your definition, no one in a monogamous relationship can be bisexual. That's not actually bisexuality, that's relationship status.

Exactly. My therapist asked me once if I felt deprived because I was bisexual and monogamous (not that I wouldn't be open to other arrangements given the right circumstances), and my response was: "no less deprived than two straight people in a marriage". Yes, I still fantasize about ladies, but I'm sure he still…

I can't tell if you're responding to the initial letter or the follow-up, but coming from A Bisexual Person (And Therefore The Expert, you're implying?) this perspective seems awfully bi-erasey for Other Bisexual People who wind up in monogamous, opposite-/other-sex relationships.

Except, you know, he isn't freaking out in the least.

because *newsflash* being bisexual doesn't mean you want to sleep with everybody, it just means you are attracted to both men and women. And that is as much a part of this women's identity as a gay or straight person so why should she stay in a closet?

Because she doesn't want to hide part of herself from people she knows? Because she wants to help remedy the issue of bisexual erasure?

Ugh D: my sympathies you had to see that.

Reasonable doubt? Oh, that's just this bottle.

Yup! Plus, skinny jeans are great for short people like me (I'm 4'11"). They fit like regular jeans. Skinny jeans for everyone!

It took me far too long to embrace skinny jeans, since I thought only skinny people could pull them off. But no, every woman can. They can pry my skinny jeans from my cold, dead hands. I'm assuming that since I turned 30 while they were in style, they're the new "mom jeans," meaning I can wear them for the rest of my…

You can pry my skinnies out of my cold dead hands. I'm only slightly taller than average but I'm leggy. Boot cut jeans always end up being too short and tall would be way to long. With skinnies if they're too short they just looked cropped. if they're a little long you can just roll them up a bit.

sorry not sorry! I'm plus size but have great legs. Skinny jeans look great on me and everyone gets to see all my boots.