Jesus Christ, I have no problem with people believing rape victims, please stop.

i didn’t say “everyone should believe victims full stop.” i said I believe victims, that is MY position, as neither a police officer nor an officer of the court. i can’t change anyone’s life by believing their accusation (in that i have no power to put someone in jail), so i feel comfortable maintaining my position of…

I agree, there was the time someone in a comment section of some site accused a musician of rape. Jez believed it ran multi articles on it to find out she was lying. U can support the victim without attacking the alleged perp. But, people seem not to get that.

I believe victims, too. And he just might be the victim here, who knows? That was my point. I tried to be respectful but since you do not give me the same consideration, roll your eyes at me, I am done with this.

I don’t understand why “innocence until proven guilty” gets completely over-ridden because of statistics.

Yes, the prisons were mixed by then and being a small white boy in a prison with mostly black men who had lived through all the horrors of Apartheid automatically made him a target. My friends there were mostly very poor white kids who couldn’t lock themselves in their gated community, like most richer white South…

I am truly sorry you had to go through that. I think what needs to be achieved is that women feel comfortabel enough to go to the police and press charges and be ok with identifying themselves. I couldn’t and I really wish I had. I get your reaction to believe someone, simply based on likelyhood but this is a…

but people who are nonbinary can also feel this same fear, depending on how they present themselves. ‘ignoring the gender binary’ is language that does exclude; you can express your fears without saying that there are only two genders that people can be.

I mean, that depends.

You are right of course that rape is more common than women lying about it and I said that in my post as well. I really think it’s fucked up to be: well, there are many women who killed themselves because of rape, as if that in any way makes it ok what my best friend went through.(Plus, you could argue that rape…

As a transwoman I have to deal with all of the same fears that you do. I also have to deal with the fear of women like you excluding me instead of fighting for all women. I’m genuinely sorry about the sexism we both face, but I hope you are able to keep it from letting you show compassion for all women and feminine…

This whole thing makes me incredible uncomfortable.
I was raped when I was 15 by a close friend, I never said anything about it and kept on hanging out with him afterwards. So, no I don’t think it matters one bit wether she still texted this guy or even had consensual sex with him afterwards.
However, back in the…

Disheartened by all the comments here accusing Hopkins of faking or otherwise unauthentically adopting a queer identity as a strategy for perpetrating violence against women. This same line of thinking is what is used to deny trans women access to women’s spaces and movements. Opposing sexual violence and sexism…

Yes--I did.

Of *course* sexuality is a spectrum. Colors are also a spectrum, but we have names for them so we can communicate with others about them. If I arbitrarily decide that red is blue, then I’ve broken with those conventions and am no longer using generally-agreed-upon definitions. In that situation, I might be right, but…

Before I had come to grips with my sexuality my last boyfriend (still good friend) was bisexual and genderqueer (we chose to be gf and bf to each other at the time). They’d call themselves a power bottom and in all ways but that I was and am a ciswoman they were a power bottom. They’d dated a straight ciswoman…

Cool--I didn’t know there was a law now requiring you to call yourself cos-gendered. We’ve come a long way, baby!

The accused here doesn’t stand a chance. If he’s a rapist, he deserves to have his life turned upside down. But we can’t know. Not really. Once this accusation has been made, we have been instructed to believe it no matter what, and to analyze the living hell out of everything the accused says in his own defense so as…

I suppose a professor could pressure a student to drink. Still, there’s the sinister implication that if a professor could, he’d want to. Why exactly? Oh right—so that he could force her into sex.

Normally I say to people “This is Jezebel, blah blah blah a pop/current event site” but holy shit! Thanks for the tip!