Would it have been more acceptable if she had been paying the nanny minimum wages?

This is a massive over-share, in my opinion. Why does the world need to know this level of detail about why you fired your nanny? This has a my-husband-is-hot-and-would-never-cheat-on-me-let-me-show-the-world-proof vibe.

Ok obviously sexting the boss was entirely inappropriate, but calling your husband a LEGEND because he recorded the firing of her? And then listening to it with all of your girlfriends? That’s kind of just immature and cruel and unnecessary, grow up, you fired her and ended the situation, the humiliation isn't really…