i’m not sure how that is a response to what i said, but OK. it feels like a cop out because you recognise that there is a significant difference to the experience of watching porn based on who the audience is and what is kind of dynamics are being portrayed. i, as a straight woman, am going to get very different…

considering how misogynistic mainstream porn can be, in regards to hetero relationships you can’t really compare unless the women are watching a lot of misandrist porn that degrades and humiliates men and solely concentrates on the woman’s pleasure and ignores or delegitimises the man’s pleasure. even then because of…

there are people here who will argue that is kink-shaming and shaming of people (especially women) who enjoy rape fantasies. i don’t agree with that opinion at all (i think fantasising about rape is weird, whether you’re fantasising about doing it to someone else or having it done to you, it’s weird because it’s…

I really doubt it gives guys a healthy perspective when you consider all the gross, humiliating porn there is out there, which they start consuming at a very young age. Guys used to read Playboy, which never really gave women the place of “whores”, but of natural sexual beings, not unlike pin ups and other nude art.

Where are all those extremely respectful guys I keep hearing about?

i think that is PART of the debate that we should be having, but not all of it. i think there is problematic porn that is problematic for adults to be consuming as well, stuff that portrays violence and non-consensual activity, as well as stuff that is based on degrading and objectifying women.

I don’t know you, your brother or your mother, so that’s not saying much.

That’s the same thing as filming sexually violent acts against women.

He doesn’t have one.

Please show me a real life fairy.

I admit, I find it really hard to be cool with the porn industry (especially the growing pro-am porn industry) because of a human trafficking case I did some work on as a legal intern where women from Latin American countries were forced into this stuff. Nasty, facial abuse and slur stuff. There’s a lot to the…

So you’re saying that message of the movie was “women should be held hostage” and him holding her hostage was presented as a good thing?

Please tell me how seeing Deadpool is going to cause a young boy to disrespect women.

Even “safe” and consensual porn is often somewhat problematic, though. Firstly, of course, most of it is made from a male perspective, and so naturally the male in the average straight porn video is the character we’re expected to empathise with, while the women are there to satisfy him sexually, and are more…

Define respectful. Do you believe that it is the same as being polite?

since most kids nowadays see their first online porn around age 11, i think it is actually critical to address how viewing porn can effect young developing minds.

I think it really depends on what kind of porn you are looking at. There are feminist bent porn studios where everyone is a fully consenting adult with good compensation. Being trans, I like to see other trans folks and like to pay for my porn so I know the actors are okay. Plus it’s the only reliable way to make sure…

I had an ex whose porn habit eventually negated our real life sex. My best friend had the same situation. In both cases, sex drives and sex life was active and regular, until fascination with porn took over. Then “regular”sex was not interesting anymore. It had to be some version from the magazines or videos or…

Jesus, I hope you’re joking and that you actually do understand that the way in which I used consume there was perfectly correct.

I don’t think I can be convinced that porn is healthy for men. Ladies, whose boyfriends/husbands are pornheads, tell me honestly and not the “sex positive, politically correct, men pleasing” version, do your partners porn habits mean great/improved sex with better, more frequent orgasms for you personally?