“But for the first time ever, single adult women outnumber married adult women in the U.S., and the narrative around our experience hasn’t evolved with the numbers.” Oh Aimee. Thank you for writing this.
“But for the first time ever, single adult women outnumber married adult women in the U.S., and the narrative around our experience hasn’t evolved with the numbers.” Oh Aimee. Thank you for writing this.
Do it - I went to Peru and then Thailand by myself. Loved it and made memories with the people I met there. I never let lack of companionship stop me from doing something I really want to do!
Way too late to this, but... wrong side of 40, single 15 years, no form of physical intimacy in over 10 (not just sex, but cuddling, etc too), and now trans/transitioning. Somewhat figuring that the odds of finding someone at this point are roughly equal to the powerball. (I’d really like to find someone, just don’t…
I hear you on the bitterness. Defining spinsterhood as a choice helps. But I seriously have fast forward through romantic scenes in movies an TV because it can feel like kick in the pants sometime; not to mention super affectionate coupled friends. I much prefer being alone to settling but its lesser of two evils. It…
It’s possible the number of qualified people is simply low. I prayed, my wife appeared, she’s the perfect partner for me, we got married. That simple.
I guess I’ll add to the chorus here as well. I’m in my late 30s, but it’s always pretty routine for me to go 3-5 years between relationships. When I moved to a new city this past fall, I decided to put myself out there for the first time in two years and it’s been terrible! There are plenty of guys who want to meet…
Aimée. You rock for sharing this story. It’s my story too.
The most underrated fictional trope is the free spirited auntie of a certain age, who floats into down with wild gifts and wild stories of her adventures around the world.
This is resonating with me like mad. I’ve always known in my gut that I’d be alone. and your description of this purgatory we get placed in, this holding pattern, is spot on. I will say that for me, the loneliness has reached a peak this year, and I’ve never felt quite so low and un-connected to people. The idea that…
God, I feel all of this. I did eventually marry, but that decade where I didn’t have anyone yet every woman I knew bounced from relationship to relationship with less than a month in between, each time expecting me to be the emotional support for them? And you’re just sitting there wondering when you are going to get…
Romantic relationships aren’t necessary to have a good life. At 29, I’ve never had sex or had a relationship with a male. Maybe it’s because I’m ugly, but I’ve had to look outside of romance/love/relationships and into other things to find fulfillment and happiness. I’ve found lots of happiness in traveling, my…
Long time reader, first time poster.
Thank you so, so much for this. At the age of 35, it has been over 3 years since I have been in a relationship and I feel as though I am done with dating. I’ve realized that I don’t mind being single and I would rather spend my time on things that make me happy rather than spending countless hours searchingly through…
I’ve never identified with a Jezebel post so much. I’ve been single for 15 years (I’m 30), not for lack of trying. I’ve given up trying to talk to my friends and family about how much it sucks and how much I’d love to have a partner because the reply is invariably “try harder. Lose weight. Join a club. Lower your…
A) Merry Christmas!