People bring this nonsense up every year, and the hair-splitting drives me crazy. Someone somewhere once wrote that if you asked Germans if they were proud to be German, they would be completely flummoxed, because while they might be happy to be German, they wouldn’t know what you meant by “proud” for the reasons the…

Yeah but also Jackie was a huge jerk who was usually imposing on people.

I don’t think there is, to be honest. I’m not followed on Jez, and I’ve been a frequent commenter for several years, so I have no idea. I see people ask to be followed, and sometimes that works, but I can never quite bring myself to. I’m followed on a couple of other blogs, so I just comment there a lot, and on…

Oh! I can do this! So you are out of the grays permanently if Jezebel follows you. However, you can be out of the grays temporarily if you are starred our replied to by a followed commenter. You can also be followed by individual authors, which makes you out of the gray on their articles. There are additionally a ton…

HAVE SOMETHING BLUE!

I mean, I don’t have to be best friends with my neighbors, but I lived in a flat once where the downstairs flat was used as a holiday let, which meant there were constantly strangers coming and going. It’s weird to have strangers coming into your apartment complex and going into buildings that consistently. I had…

And definitely not enough that I am drinking for free! Even when I was a shameless underaged college student, out for whatever illegal free drinks I could get, the vast majority of my drinking was self-funded. If this guy is buying drinks for so many women that he feels that men subsidize women’s drinking 100%,…

There was a girl my freshman year whose mom had blown up a picture of her surfing with some kind of slogan (“Leslie hangs 10!” or “Amanda’s riding in!” or whatever) and hung it on her door after she moved her in. It was very clearly one of those things that your mom says is cool and funny, and you’re entering an…

Yeah, I’m not usually one to be all, “WHYYYYY another article about the Kardashians,” but come on, this dirt bag was entirely Kardashian. There has got to be other stuff going on. Plus this is one case where I clicked on the dirt bag, not a Kardashian article, so I can’t be told not to read about them if I don’t want…

OK, people always talk about this men-buying-ladies-drinks things, and I have to ask...how often is this happening? Like, I have had guys buy me drinks before, but I think we should discount the times that it was a friend or significant other, because usually I would get them back or it was my birthday. So if we’re…

When my (white) friend was little, she picked out a black baby doll at the store. Nbd, obviously. Until later, when it came out that she had picked it out because she had somehow gotten the impression that she would be black when she grew up, so she picked out the baby doll to “look like her.” She threw a screaming…

I hate Heathrow because the gates are so separate from the glorious rest of the airport. Generally, I like to do a bit of wandering, but head down to where I can at least see my gate as early as possible, then take frequent short walks around in that area and/or buy some food. But with Heathrow, there is absolutely…

Mine looks spectacular at the beach, although you don’t want to touch it. The salt and sand tousles it up and makes it hold curls really well. But, again, it is disgusting to the touch, and washing/combing it afterwards is a nightmare.

Wait, is she trying to still have the wedding? My impression was that she wanted the money to cover the deposits she had lost, not to start planning a new wedding.

Right? There are plenty of times when I am talking at work because I have a question or a qualm about something someone just said, but since I am not an expert in the area, I am happy to raise the question and have it be answered or corrected. It’s no big deal. Or sometimes in brainstorming sessions, I’ll throw out a…

We have hats. We are always being encouraged to put on our different hats. It’s basically a way of asking us to do extra work that is outside of our actual job, but they word it as, like, being adaptive and able to transition to handle whatever comes at you.

I definitely agree with you on a personal, individual level. It’s useful to work on how you present yourself in order to succeed; that I agree with. However, at an institutional level, it’d be great if we could shift the focus to hearing the ideas and not the mannerisms. I’m not talking about the very top level, but…

He was sleazy, but like a young boy trying to be sexually aggressive and sleazy. I normally want to run away and take a shower when I see sleazy guys, but this one I kind of wanted to hug and coo, “Shhh shh shh, it’s OK. You don’t have to try so hard. Shhhh.”

This seems to me to be a case where he is being literal. He is afraid that vaccines cause autism. He chose a picture of [what he thinks is] an autistic child having a meltdown. Even if that wasn’t his intention, that is very much what it looks like. The implication is definitely that this is a specific child who has…

Haha, I put silly nicknames on a lot of them. “Margaret, Margaret, elusive ray of sunshine,” and “My darling little woodland sprite Colleen” were two of my favorites. Like...these are my friends. They are not going to be pissed that their invites weren’t perfectly proper.