I do not know who all these people are who went into new parenthood with their eyes wide open and faced no surprises because everything was exactly as they planned, but I have a 9-week-old, and I handled things just how you are, and even though there were a million things we couldn’t have planned for, we’re doing…

If you truly believe that (and the onus is on you to prove it; I’m going to need to see some documentation that says that we are not allowed to be nervous or upset when confronted by a cop), then it is horrifying that you have accepted it as normal and ok. Adapting or facing the consequences are not the only options…

Hahahah nope.

Just a reminder: being nervous, terrified, or angry while speaking to a cop is not a reason to get shot. We are legally allowed to ask about our rights. We are legally allowed to be upset. We are legally allowed to be frightened and to react nervously. All of those are things cops should expect when they stop someone,…

I mean, come on, I’m a white woman, and I’ve had two bad experiences with cops in spite of being calm and reasonable both times. Once involved having a gun pulled on me. Are you for real going to pretend that every single cop is reasonable, or that your experiences are universal?

Wait, is Taylor Swift claiming to be a virgin? I mean, that is fine if she is; I just didn’t know that was part of her persona.

For what it’s worth, that was not my experience. I just got a prescription after talking to a nurse, although she did talk to me about safe sex and STDs, which just feels like a good call. And you don’t have to do it every time you renew your prescription; I suspect that, even if offices that use the procedure thiazin…

No, it totally is different in the UK. Don’t worry! I actually was never even permitted to go to a GYN when I had an STD, which led to misdiagnosis and unnecessary treatment (surprise it wasn’t an STD at all!). Mostly I liked the UK system, but that incident left a terrible taste in my mouth. But more seriously, you…

Yeah I am totally prepared to forgive this kind of behavior in general. It’s really natural. My friends and I will generally ask each other, “Do you need me to just hate on this person with you?” if we feel like the other one is being a little ridiculous in how one-sided their story is. And if that is what they need…

Hahaha, “knowing I shouldn’t” and “not doing it” are not always the same thing. I more meant that I probably wouldn’t put anything in writing or, you know, publish an article to a large readership. Shit, I had a really bad fallout with a friend over a year ago, and I am still pretty sure that it was all her fault and…

Oh thank god. Thank god for you. I scrolled through so many comments agreeing with or engaging with this article before I got to yours.

Oh thank god. Thank god for you. I scrolled through so many comments agreeing with or engaging with this article before I got to yours.

I mean, I would have totally been here for a super-bitchy rant about friend breakups and how they suck, but this feels somehow worse than that? This is, like, a well-thought-out, sanctimonious story about That Time I was a really, really good friend, and then for No Reason this woman who no one here knows was a huge…

I mean, I would have totally been here for a super-bitchy rant about friend breakups and how they suck, but this feels somehow worse than that? This is, like, a well-thought-out, sanctimonious story about That Time I was a really, really good friend, and then for No Reason this woman who no one here knows was a huge…

Oh, well if they were legit kids, I would assume that they were just kind of idiots (as kids often are) and let it slide. I am always torn on stories like this, because on the one hand, I don’t want to endorse shitty behaviour, but on the other hand, I cannot imagine how exhausting it must be to have people approach…

Oh, I am totally with you on quality time! My husband and I have definitely had those kinds of evenings where we were both on our computers the whole time, and then we end up kind of missing each other even though technically we were together for hours.

I hold it in for the loud talkers, but once someone starts playing games or music on their phones without headphones, it’s no holds barred.

Wow, I really thought your take on that story was gonna be a lot different. I would be soooo pissed if someone followed me into the bathroom to ask me for a favour. That is a fucking weird thing to do.

That’s the joke. It’s funny specifically because it is a self-aware subversion of a misogynistic (and, one could argue, racist) standard. And because Colin Jost is in on the joke. It would not be funny if she was making real, unscripted overtures that surprised Jost and made him uncomfortable.

From my perspective, though, I am always with my husband. Which is great, because I love him a lot! But if being physically around him always had to translate to being “with” him, I would never have any down time. I don’t know if that is the OP’s situation, but for me, there are plenty of times when my husband and I…