I think you are the only person on this thread who has said that, which is kind of shocking to me. And kind of why I do want to push the issue a little bit. Everyone is willing to acknowledge that it isn’t equal and that there should be a better system, but there really doesn’t seem to be a good egalitarian solution.…

That’s not a bad idea actually. It helps that our last names both start with the same letter, so they would at least all have the same last initial.

I just figure no one would say the first name. And mine would have to be the first name, because as dumb as it sounds MyName-HisName, it sounds so much worst HisName-MyName. So we would effectively be giving them his last name.

Right? I go back and forth on this a lot, because I’ll think, “Well it would be so much easier if we all had the same name, especially with the fact that we are from different countries and do a lot of international travel...maybe it wouldn’t be such a big deal for me to change my name.” But then I’ll remember that it…

I don’t want to change my name for a million reasons, but if I’m honest, the main one is that my dad and brother have both said that they would never marry a woman who insisted on keeping her name, because it is disrespectful.

I would love that, but it doesn’t seem fair to insist that he do something I don’t want to do. Particularly because he really does not care if I take his name. If he did, I would probably go into a feminist rage about it and demand he take mine.

Wait, so do you mean that if your name is Ann Vinson and his is John Plummer, you would both take the name “Vinson Plummer”?

I do like the idea of the compromise, but, like...his name could be the middle name and mine could be the last name, you know? Neither of us have really super-amazing last names (because if his last name was something like Giggles I would insist that everyone take his name), but we both like our last names and also…

Totally agree. I love our fairly routine method of doing it. We have figured out what works for us, and while we might have a really ambitious day where we both commit to, like, romancing each other and maybe trying a new thing or mixing in something we don’t do too often, for the most part I want the thing that I…

What are people doing when they have kids? I am keeping my name, but I would also like to have the same last name as our kids. He is totally down with me keeping my name and is keeping his, but he would like to have the same last name as our kids.

Haha I did the same thing. “Maybe there is an old Jezebel joke about mistaking dolphins for sharks?” I wondered.

OH MY GOD THANK YOU I FELT LIKE I WAS LOSING MY MIND

But like...that isn’t a shark. I am perhaps disproportionately upset about this, but the headline said it was a shark.

I always feel like maybe it would be ok to say something in those situations? Like, maybe that person doesn’t realize what an asshole they’re being; surely they would stop if they did?

It should be on both parties’ terms. It should definitely be on the woman’s terms, and it should also be on the man’s terms. They should work together to figure out those terms, and if their terms are not compatible, they should not have sex.

YES! Even when nothing bad is happening in my life, I can’t be excited 100% of the time. I never made a facebook announcement, so there were plenty of people whom I told maybe a month or two after we’d gotten engaged, and I could not summon up the energy to be super enthusiastic for each one of those. I am so happy to…

I have no idea. I just know that I read A LOT of Sweet Valley books, and that story really stands out to me for whatever reason.

Man I hope so - for purely selfish reasons. I have no idea whether or not it would be better for the UK, but I know it would be worse for me!

AND THE OLSENS HOW COULD YOU FORGET THEM?

The one at the fair with the ghost! Where Elizabeth befriends this mysterious girl, and Jessica gets freaked out by a freaky fortune teller who predicts death for her at the fair. And then! It turns out that the fair is haunted! By the ghost of a teenage girl who died on the ferris wheel and now tried to lure other…