As someone who has lived through a somewhat similar experience, I read this and instantly felt empowered and thankful that other girls who had a hellish life because of their narcissistic, abusive mothers are growing into strong, outspoken women. I think speaking out shamelessly is the only way to heal and break the…

I want to time travel and hug the children you were, and I want to regular travel and shake the hand of the adult you have become.

The funeral, as they say, is for the living. So I would argue, do whatever you have to to get the taint of the dead off you.

Nicely put, beatrixkiddo. I've been trying to put my finger on why I can't muster any contempt for Franco. Sure, I could nitpick his writing (esp. the academic stuff) until the end of time, but my heart's just not in it.

I am in training to become professional Bible scholar (because employability is for jerks), and all that word salad just makes me sad.

I think there was a cachet about having an African-American president because of guilt.

Well, let's remember that back in the day women would often quit a job when they got engaged, and never work outside the home again. Plus ideas around purity, marrying young etc. meant that a woman who was previously engaged and then had it broken off might have difficulty marrying again. So an engagement ring was not…

Call it anything other than "a mangagement ring" and I think more people would but them. Because it's the dumbest fucking thing since "brogurt."

"Management Ring" = the new right hand ring!

I would want mine to be one of those old fashioned poison rings, that's how you really move up the corporate ladder...

Agreed. I've always said I'm down to throw a party, cause I like parties. And, if should choose to marry (I'm on the fence about that particular institution, especially given the fact that it's not something that everyone is allowed to do) — it's certainly cause for celebration. But the elaborate ceremony, crazy…

Preach. I never cease to be amazed by the amount of shit I put myself through when I was younger because I thought it was what was expected of me by society/my family/my peers/whomever.

"Mangagement" reminds me of this:

You are certainly free to go with that option! Others like the rings, and they should keep doing that. And fyi, it is possible to get beautiful rings cheaply. You don't HAVE to spend a ton of money.

same thing

It's so unnecessary, and also poorly thought out. Mengagement was right there, and doesn't leave the reader (cough cough) wondering why the article assumes that only men are in management positions for two paragraphs.

I keep reading it as "management"

My blow for equality is making it clear to my bf that I don't really care for engagement rings. If we get hitched, we can both wear a ring then. If we're engaged first, neither of us needs a ring. And if anyone is bothered enough to ask why I don't have one, they are welcome to an explanation of all of my problems…

Yeah, James Franco seems to actually appreciate the life he has. He's a pretty upbeat and personable human being. I feel like what many interpret as pretentiousness is actually a certain earnestness that people just aren't used to anymore.

"my decision was in part an effort to jar expectations of what a film actor does and to undermine the tacit — or not so tacit — hierarchy of entertainment"