Don’t feel bad, honey. I do too. But then he can get the hell out of my bed and go home.

She’s going to find that her loss of looks is much more important in their relationship than his....

His fiancee had this to say: “When men get to a certain age, they realize that it’s important to meet a life partner that they connect with,” she says. “Looks fade.”

Agree. I HAVE a set of allen wrenches. Don’t need to save them.

LOL

I was telling an acquaintance that I sleep with my dogs, and she was all, “don’t tell people that, they’ll get the wrong idea.” I asked her who in their right mind would get the wrong idea about that.

Came here to say that I would have given anything, anything at all, to just gaze upon Alec’s face in the 90s. Looking at pics of him from back then literally makes my toes curl. Not sure what’s up with that, but he is the only man I have ever seen that makes it happen. He was truly gorgeous.

My toothpaste also!

Agree. But it still would get all leaky and gross inside the closed cap. So I stopped buying it. Problem solved.

You are amazing! Good for you for getting out, setting boundaries, and standing up for yourself. This will serve you well your entire life.

Wow, that is so gross! I am 50, recently divorced from a man who emotionally abused and manipulated me for almost 30 years (I met him when I was 21). If I can be so presumptuous as to give you advice it would be this:

They sound so attractive! How is it that they’re not already married??!!

See, you should be using that time to have imaginary arguments with your conservative relatives over politics. That’s what’s really useful.

I am so sorry you went through that. I hope your life is peaceful now.

Does negging also apply to when men say negative things about other women to implicitly complement you, or does that have its own term?

Actually everyone thought we had the perfect relationship, because that was the image he wanted to project. When we were out in public together he was sweet, attentive, and engaged. When we were alone, he would just ignore me, unless he needed to put me in my place or control me. I loved going out with him because I…

Negging. It’s a standard move in the PUA handbook. I wish I didn’t know this.

Are you me? My ex would take me shopping and pick out clothes he found appropriate or liked. It didn’t matter if I liked them or not. If I bought something on my own, he would make me model it for him and take it back if he didn’t like it. If I didn’t show him something, just had the audacity to wear it one day,…

I know! Stiletto roller skates are so tacky. This is much more my speed:

You know who else needs a registry? Some people getting divorced. I lost almost everything when I fled my (thank-god-now-ex) husband and my home of 25 years. Getting back on my feet was terrible, but I learned that you can get a lot of good stuff cheap at Goodwill.