Thank you so much! You saying don’t let him make you feel crazy is the perfect thing I needed to hear! It’s awful. I’m pissed, I’m hurt and I’m embarrassed. I know I didn’t do anything, he should be the one to feel shame or embarrassment but I am so embarrassed. I feel like a complete dumb ass. I NEVER saw this coming.

I’ve been through something like this and it’s awful. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. No one can tell you what to do, but I will plead with you to listen to yourself and what you’re feeling. If something seems wrong, it more than likely is. We ended up in counseling and are still together, but if I had paid…

Well, not really. I’m a biologist by trade. Pretty much anyone that cares about the environment agrees about human overpopulation. There’s little reason to keep procreating. It’s just (as multiple commentators noted) our economy depends on creating more humans. The problem is when robots start to really become a…

Never underestimate the selfish motivation of those interested in procreation. Adopt, maybe? Nope, it absolutely HAS to be their genes because fuck everyone else.

Dude, 80 degrees in NYC is not mild temperatures, and she’s wearing a full suit, body armor, and probably shapewear.

The “close doors” button doesn’t work? I’ve been alienating coworkers by jamming on that thing all these years for nothing?!

This is a thing that I think about every now and then, especially now that I have a son. I feel like I have to be realistic about the fact that no matter how hard I try to keep it away from him, he’s probably going to see porn before I think he’s old enough (the internet isn’t going anywhere anytime soon). So, my and…

Parts of the chicken, ranked:

Possibly. However, based on the fact that I was deliberately excluded from a prenatal yoga and mom’s group based on my response to the “getting to know you” questionnaire which asked about intent to breastfeed, I’m going to say that is a WHOLE can of worms. I feel I have to “out” myself or apologize for my intent not…

Well I would have loved a quiet place to bottle feed my infant because she tended to get distracted by people watching. I also think my anxiety about bottle feeding would have faired better in public if I hadn’t had some wonderful experiences from helpful moms telling me I was a shit mom for using formula. It’s cool…

Same. This is also why I don’t care for ‘gritty’ fiction. Real life is dark enough, thanks.

I don't think I ever felt more vulnerable than when I was struggling with infertility and we started looking into the very confusing and difficult process of adoption. Fuck these people from the bottom of my heart. Between them and body shaming Playboy bitch we need a good animal post on Jez stat.

Genetics. It’s genetics. (Also, while I’m sure the strains of HPV that cause genital warts obviously have an affect on the appearance of the genitals, that sounds like some made-up bullshit that sounds like a lot of other made-up bullshit that’s used as justification to denigrate non-porn-y-looking female genitals as…

Love love love Samantha, but I have a semi (mostly) unrelated question — see how the lapels of the jacket she’s wearing in this picture are not folded and lapel-like? They have the notch at the collar and the seam indicating the lapel, but the lapels seem to be unfolded to go with the ‘popped’ collar. Is this a real…

I’m ten years beyond this, so with the benefit of hindsight.......do it now!

Agreed. I don’t like the term at all. “Mama” is just as bad.

Can we stop using “mommy” as an adjective? Mommy bloggers, mommy classes, mommy vacations, “mommy friends.” It has this weird way of infantilizing motherhood by tying it to infant parlance. Get off your baby’s level! You’re a mother, a mom, you speak “adult.”

In Japan, where gun homicides are even rarer, the likelihood of dying this way is about the same as an American’s chance of being killed by lightning

I’m going to try and be extra patient and considerate this week, a quiet tribute to the victims in Orlando. There’s a lot of bad out there, sadness and grief and frustration with these terrible incidents, we all feel it, and it seems like a good idea to actively try and not add to the mess. Peace and love, Jez…

Toronto Jezzies, please consider joining me at the vigil at 8 pm tonight in Barbara Hall Park: https://www.thestar.com/news/gta/2016/…