I heard a woman once talking about the abusive relationship she had been in and she said, “I didn’t think of myself as an abused woman. I thought of myself as a very strong woman who was deeply in love with a very damaged man, but a man who could be made whole if I just loved him enough.” It was enlightening and…

There it is, just for you: “Lesbian identities have always been sidelined...we’ve always slid under the radar,” Julia Applegate says. “I don’t think people are as interested in what women do, period. I don’t think we’re as interesting to people because we’re not as valued.” 

I never saw him shut any woman up.

Mortal Dictata: a call out

I’m sorry you went through that, but she did not compare what she went through (which is also sexual assault) to rape. Her experience doesn’t denigrate your experience. Please keep in mind that many women are sexually assaulted in their lifetimes, all the way up to rape. Those violations are still harmful to us as…

Probably the same thing that happened in those situations 20 years ago, when most people didn’t carry cell phones.

Can I ask why it’s about the love of father/brother but not mother/sister?

No it’s not accepted as part of the culture. NOPE. I really shouldn’t be surprised to find such horrificly homophobic statements on Jezebel

I have a reason to celebrate! After 5 years of waiting for The Asshole to fix the divorce papers he wanted me to sign, I went ahead and filed for divorce myself, back in June. This week, the judge signed the decree after The Asshole didn’t respond to the notice he was sent.

People were surprised when Jodie Foster came out a few years ago. Never underestimate a heterosexual’s ability to perceive straightness where it doesn’t exist.

In this day and age it really feels like that’s not good enough. Not a purity test for being the bestest Liberal or some crap, because we all screw up. But well my church is great just not equal rights for everyone. I can’t accept that.

But the patriarchy is also responsible for the last name your husband has now. Why is yours less important than his?

Not really. I dislike the idea of forgiveness necessarily being indicative of a greater emotional maturity. If she’s found closure through forgiveness, that’s fine for her personally, but it shouldn’t be forced on anyone. It’s a victim’s right to stay angry.

Having the last, best word while simultaneously reminding people that domestic violence should never be swept under the rug is the best definition of “closure” I can think of. You’ve reached a position of indifference, but what makes you think everyone else should be where you are? It’s not like the family took out…

Personal invitation from gay friends doesn’t mean you aren’t invading a queer space. Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ever go, just that you’re always going to be a guest there and should act like it. Part of that is not getting all “but what about meee?” when a queer person broadly condemns the idea of straight-cis people…

I mean, I get that. Basically every single strip club on earth is aimed at people of a certain sex and sexual orientation. That’s a given. But, the way she insists on it and on not taking “that kind of money” comes off as slightly odd and fucked up. If that’s all she meant (“this is primarily for the ladies but…

straight people who go to gay clubs are THE WORST.

I am so glad I’m gay.

I do get tired of how some gay men exaggerate the feminine in a way that feels a bit like appropriation.

Oh for sure, if you can go, fucking do it. But the OP’s comment sort of smacked of that bootstraps bullshit you hear from a lot of people who think it’s a simple and easy choice.