Time off for elder care doesn’t even cross people’s minds. It’s disgusting and sad that I can get support to become a mother, yet no support to help my own mother.

I wonder when companies will start extending benefits to us non-breeders. It would be nice to get a 20 week sabbatical at least once.

Yup, there’s always some excuse so we can’t point out how shitty men are to women. Oh, but he is such a great sports player! Oh, but he writes so well! Oh, he is too young/old to know better!

“I mean, Lauren. What a guy had to do 20 years ago to get a woman in bed?

That all sounds to me like a VERY different conversation from one that begins by accusing a sexual assault victim of attention-seeking.

Clover, you are consistently idiotic and homophobic. You shouldn’t still be writing here or anywhere. Gay men are not purses or accessories, and the GBF phenomenon is offensive. His sexual orientation is not “insignificant.” Their incompatibility is not due to his flaw. (Why isn’t her heterosexuality the…

I was born with a fauxhawk, so I guess the lesbianism was inevitable, really.

Here’s your warning: someone posted a gif where a trained horse was not punched in the face and then the horse performed a trick. and was given lots of carrots and apples after for a treat.

So sorry. I wish you well.

Thank you for sharing that. I'm happy you had the strength to leave. You deserve to be happy and safe!

Finally! Some well-written coverage of science on Jezebel! This article does everything right (reading the actual study, talking to the actual authors, giving side-eye to shitty popular news coverage) that that atrocious article a few weeks ago didn’t (covering a menopause study).

I completely agree. I have a Personality Disorder that is made worse when I drink. I missed my best friend from childhoods wedding because of my behaviour, and it is only after I sorted myself out and apologized that we began to rebuild our relationship. Same with my stepmum. I was an arse, and it was on me to say…

This. Sometimes an asshole friend is just an asshole.

Exactly. There has to be a level of self-preservation in any relationship. This “they’re sick/need help” bullshit martyr syndrome is part of what keeps us in abusive relationships of all kinds. NO. We don’t owe anyone the privilege to abuse us.

It’s weird, isn’t it? I had a friend lash out at me last year because I hadn’t responded to a non-critical text of hers. I was in shock when I read some of her words but then I thought, “Heh, I don’t have to be filled to the brim with anxiety now every time I know we’re getting together. Hm. Ok then!” I was very sad…

I really disagree. Mental illness *may* be a factor in any given behavior, but it’s not *always* a factor. Sometimes I might want to stay in bed all day because I’m feeling extreme anxiety or my body is in physical pain because of depression, but sometimes I want to stay in bed all day because I’m just feeling lazy…

But there has to be a line you don’t get to cross. Attacking my spouse is that line for me. What if, instead of mentally abusing him, she had punched the husband in the face? Or- god forbid- assaulted her children? Wouldn’t that be crossing the line of no return? Forgiveness is one thing, continuing the friendship is…

You leave abusive relationships. Period.

That’s much more pleasant than thinking about lost friends decades later that you wish you still had.