He’s new to poly and his other partner has been poly for a long time. I define myself as ethically non-monogamous; I date multiple people, but I tend to keep it very casual and usually don’t bring strong feelings into it.

Oh how wonderfully poetic!

Good for you! It took me so long to get over being embarrassed about asking for oral, and if a guy offered I always said “are you sure???” like it was some grand gesture. It wasn’t until late in college when I was with a guy and he’s like, yeah I love it it’s the best and all guys should do it and here watch this and…

Is she fucking serious? If you are married, then you cannot be a feminist? What absolute horseshit. People listen to this woman?

haha this is very reassuring to hear.

What is greater than snazzy gold curtains in the oval office?

I wish I could dodge them in Europe!

I haven’t seen posts from you in a while. Where you been? Or, have I just missed you?

I heard an NPR interview with a woman in Florida who said that she was already feeling hopeful about Trump even before the inauguration because her 401k was doing great, and she was confident that her kids just finishing college would find good jobs. The irony was thick with that one.

Things haven’t changed that much except we voted in a sentient snack food as Leader of The Free World.

Good point. There are exceptions to what I wrote.

If you were like “Go down on me” and he was like “nope I’m sticking my dick in you” then dump him.

The most common occurrence of this seems to be doggy, but the one time that sticks out in my mind, we were missionary and Ms. Fart’s had her legs up around my shoulders.

I had come to the conclusion it was a goofy fib. This seriously happened!?

Like. All the way in? I need more detail. Enough dudes have accidentally stuck the tip in there fumbling around in the dark on the first try that I don’t think it’s a lie—these are mostly guys I trust not to pull a fast one on me, and when I’m like “lol little higher man” they’re like “oh shit sorry” and we…

If there’s enough lube, a condom, and enough enthusiasm, someone can easily end up balls deep with just one strong, addidental thrust at the wrong hole.

This has happened to me. We were not drunk. He was thrusting and removed his penis all the way and then he pushed into me again and it went in my butt. Like, a lot (intentional anal has never been that easy). I said HEY WHAT THE FUCK. FWIW we were spooning. Any other cases where the guy has even slightly hesitated…

It has happened to me. My first boyfriend and I were going at it, he slipped out, thrusts hard, goes slamming into my butt. I screamed, I cried, I saw stars, there was bleeding, and cuddles, and many apologies and him feeling absolutely horrible.

In my experience, buttholes take a little bit more coaxing to enter. So the second you feel it press up against it and that’s not what you’re intending to engage in, especially as a virgin, there should be a big “hold up” moment. Now I understand mid-coital, vigorous thrusting/poor aim, accidental anal entry. But if…

I don’t see how knowing their holes will help women’s boyfriends to aim better.