So when are we coming for the non Black poc’s that use it more than white people? ( Im looking at you Mexican and Asian people)

This line of reasoning is why I don’t use the “n word” and also why I don’t use the word “bitch”. Some people think both words can be used in the appropriate context, but both are ugly insults and using them even in a “playful” way can be hurtful.

I don’t think it’s okay for your wife to call him that, it’s not harmless. It’s reminding him of half his ancestors having second class status. That has to have a negative impact on his self-esteem. The only way it could be argued that it doesn’t is if the word truly has a second definition that is a term of…

Indeed. I understand the impulse to say "No, that's our thing!" Every minority group (cultural, religious, racial, gender, etc.) has a difference that helps define them, something that they feel is "theirs" that sets them apart from the mainstream. It'd be like me telling people, "I speak French, therefore you can't…

You really just can't get over your righteous anger to actually try reading comprehension.

What SlayBelle said, and also it wouldn't be okay because the war bonnet is male-specific garb, so any woman wearing it would be disrespectful, even if she were fully-clothed.

YOU CAN'T GET PERMISSION FROM A CULTURE. You can't. Gwen Stefani got permission from four Japanese women to tour around with her and be called "Love, Angel, Music, Baby" as though they were figments from her imagination. And you know what? Harajuku girls are all about that shit. They spend their yen on L.A.M.B. Some…