NPR just had a story on this last week, and pointed to plane hijackings and bombings as things that have gotten a lot better. We just hear about horrible stuff for so long, and instanly, it seems like more horrible things are happening.
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To be fair, Europe back in the 70s and 80s was not exactly a cakewalk either.
We’re still waiting to hear from 2 families, close friends we share a small place with up above Nice near Falicone. One of those families is usually there this time of year and certainly would have gone down to town for the fireworks....
Sending you all the hugs. My dad and step-mother were around there very recently and I had the same reaction. (They’re back in Paris now and safe.)
I know...I believe in negging but not friendzoning, so I saw nether here. I was just wondering if I missed a subtle dig or something.
Oh dear. If behavior “unbecoming” was the worst of my sins I’d be several steps further from hell than I am. I think her character is just fine. My “short-sighted attitude”? Aunt Mabel, is that you? It’s so weird that I can hear you so clearly from the other side. I’d better go take a powder.
The adult thing to do is to realize that we fall in love or have crushes on multiple people during our lifetime even after marriage. You don’t have to act on every one of them. It’s narcissistic and childish to think that once you marry you’ll never crush on anyone else. Even more childish to act on the crush.
I used to see this all the time in groups of women. For the longest time I didn’t have very many women friends because I thought catty, bitchy, competitive nonsense was just how women were. Luckily as I’ve grown older and found my people I experience less of it, but it’s still pretty impactful when it happens. I feel…
“If you’re going to publish something, make sure you have something to say.” While I agree that publishing nonsense is probably not a worthy use of your time, this is what editors and publishers are for. There is a whole segment of people who filter work. People write whatever they’re working on, and then other people…
Yeah, I think it’s Joanna that doesn’t understand what negging is. Come on, Joanna.
I’m not saying their actions don’t count. I’m saying there’s no need to heap scorn on people for their harmless actions. And I’m saying that I see an anti-intellectualism I don’t like, as well as more sexist bullshit where we constantly try to knock other women down when they get “too uppity”. That does cause harm.
‘Friendzoning’, if that’s a thing you believe in, sure. Definitely not negging though. Negging would be more like, “Your books are less intellectual than what I usually read, but they are fairly entertaining as light beach reading goes. I’m interested to see how you develop as a novelist.”
I see, so it’s about making them less annoying to you. The burdens you bear, poor you!
And then what? The world would be a better place because they were less proud of themselves?
She isn’t a publisher.
And so what? We must shame her so that other people don't think they're too smart too? Do you realize how petty and stupid that is?
Your friend is not overconfident. She is deeply insecure and she’s trying to use her intellect (badly, it appears) to prop up her self-esteem. And it appears she feels competitive towards or threatened by you. It’s sad and likely annoying. But being knocked down a peg is not going to help and will likely only make it…
Clooney, obvs.
Clooney!