You can do it! In the time during and since, I’ve paid off my college loans, paid off my car, got myself out of credit card debt, and I have a real savings account (in NYC!!). In the span of your lifetime, this is just a blip.

Been there, did that for like 3 years. My mom is awesome and I’m very grateful she was able to help me out until I could afford to live on my own, but just visiting there brings back all the stress of being in a messy, chaotic household I couldn’t control. It will be worth it, financially. Just keep your head down and…

In full transparency, I don’t read his writing, I only listen to the podcast, but I’ve literally listened to every single one and I feel pretty confident about the advice he’s given about cheating in that medium. Either way, we both agree that is terrible advice and I hope the letter writer firmly ignores it.

There is no way Dan Savage would suggest that in this case. What he suggests is that SOME people in CERTAIN situations have permission to cheat, i.e. people married to someone who is terminal or has a chronic illness, who will not allow for divorce or an open relationship. In this case, I feel very confident that Dan…

But wait a minute. If by your logic, life stuff is going to get in the way, and desire AND free time will go down for each of them, that will mean she will want it less but he will want it....never. Like many of the comments above, I have been listening to the Savage Love podcast for years and have heard literally…

We seriously considered this for our wedding because I have a cousin who has a drug and alcohol problem and her mom called me right before the wedding to let me know the good news that her parole officer was going to let her attend (it would have been out of state for her). My entire family enables her by allowing her…

We’re wildly off-topic now, but to be clear, I don’t hate puffy coats. I was really just questioning the need for them if other people were comfortable in tank tops. I grew up in New England and live in NYC now. When it’s cold, I DGAF what my coat looks like as long as it keeps me warm and dry. I’ve often told my…

Ok, well Oreos would change everything, so bring on the Bodegas™! (This is a joke just in case it’s not obvious)

Nope, actually I didn’t understand your point about delivery. And I still don’t really get it. Amazon is going to deliver Whole Foods things to me thus replacing my “cherished” bodega?? (Also the things I would get at the bodega are not sold at Whole Foods because Whole Foods is all I’m healthy! Double stuffed Oreos…

I would say the exact opposite. I work late often so I take a cab at least once a week (and sometimes every single night), as part of our company policy that we don’t have to take the subway after 9pm. The subway (stations and trains) have given me almost all of the scary experiences I’ve had in this city. The other…

I see your point and don’t disagree, but what Aimee is trying to say is valid. The original comment was from someone who doesn’t live in the city, they are visiting. I guess Aimee could have used residents?

Same same same. They have seen me red-faced from crying, I told them when I got engaged, they don’t judge my horrible food/life choices, and they hold my packages for me. It’s the only place I can take my dog inside with me (she’s large). I know them better than my actual neighbors (and there are only 4 units in my…

Came to say the same thing. Also, not everyone who lives in NYC lives in Manhattan, bro. I do not have a Whole Foods on the corner of my block, but I do have an awesome bodega that I cherish. Also I think it’s fair to point out that while Whole Foods and Amazon ARE pushing out mom and pops, they aren’t proudly…

But he already had an American — Mike, the kid who watched TV.

But in my experience (4 days in LA last November), that IS how people dressed. My husband and I (both born and raised east coasters) were comfortable in jeans and very light jackets/hoodies and yet around us (and even sometimes sitting at the same table at a restaurant) were people in shorts and tank tops AND other…

Especially because the commenter feels the need to explain that she’s attractive twice. So we’re not allowed to comment on her appearance in a negative way but you are in a positive way? And if she were ugly, would it be ok to troll her then? Also, it’s “for Christ’s sake”, not chrissakes.

Yeah, I was a super lame kid. But now I smoke weed almost every day, so either way, it didn’t work.

Nope, not just you. DARE was where I learned about a bunch of different drugs I had never even heard of, like huffing. It didn’t turn me into an addict, instead I almost turned my parents in to the fucking police for a joint I found while snooping. Either way, shitty program with shitty results.

Don’t disagree with you that the Sun is a piece of shit. But you lost me at an actor in costume for a movie or play. Come on, dude, those two things are not the same as purposely picking that as a “funny” costume for a party. I guess you could get upset if someone decided they wanted to wear their set outfit home.

Well, wait a minute now. It’s not like dressing up like a nazi has ever been a cool thing to do, has it? Sure, things are a little more tense in 2017 because actual nazis are being defending by Drumpf on national TV, but it’s not like it was an appropriate costume prior to this year.