If you’ve always carried the emotional water in the relationship, this incident isn’t likely going to result in long-term change. Sadly, odds are he’ll revert to his usual behavior as soon as he feels the dust has settled. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone if you can’t trust them. Only you can make this…

I’m really sorry babybear. I spent years with a serial cheater and understand what you’re going through. Maybe he’s telling you the truth now and nothing happened. But the lying and cheating is just as bad. He allowed you to feel insecure and hurt. He had the power to set your mind at ease and chose not to because it…

I’m in a relationship now that I’m going to be ending - we’ve been dating three years and lived together for one (which is why breaking up is a little more complicated and I don’t know when exactly I can afford to end things). I’ve gone through a lot of what it sounds like you’re dealing with: my boyfriend did cheat…

give yourself the time you need to figure out what feel, and what you want to do about it.

“When words and actions don’t match, believe the actions.”

That sounds devastating. I think that you need to take very good care of yourself right now, in every way possible.

I’m glad you have a friend to stay with right now. I have no real advice, but I thought of this quote when I read your post:

Hi Jezzies happy New Year.. I hope we all have a wonderful, loving and positive one. I know we all may not do but let’s all remember that we are all here for each other and always seem to help each other through the crap. Also please remember people that are homeless and struggling.. it’s cold most places.. in the uk…

Oh, gosh, I was wondering about how things turned out for you in Edinburgh, so I’m very glad to see your post. While it sounds like some things are rocky for you at the moment, with luck everything will go the way you want in the end. I remember I recommended ‘Rebus’ the TV series (loved it—both iterations) which is…

You’re Canadian—if one of your parents or grandparents was a British citizen you can apply for an ancestry visa: https://www.gov.uk/ancestry-visa . They will even help you find proof if you don’t have, say, your grandfather’s birth certificate. Also, this applies even if you or one of your parents, etc. was adopted.

What a cute kitty! I’m sorry you aren’t having a good experience with your grad program, and that your partner isn’t doing their share of the emotional work, particularly given the differences in your financial and citizenship situations. Hopefully, you’re able to get the clarity you deserve to make the life that…

♥️♥️♥️💖💖💖💖💕💕💕💕💕 floof knows floof is worth it ♥️♥️♥️♥️💖💖💖💕💕💕 I want to rub floof belly!

FWIW, I know very few people who weren’t disillusioned or disappointed by grad school. Can you try working with a different professor or taking your research in another direction?

Sorry to hear about the issues.

Oh, my God. The flooooooooooooooof. 😍😍😍😍

So a while back I was looking at a place to rent long-term and found what I thought was the perfect one. I mean this had everything like large rooms (and I mean actual large not just “large for the UK”), quiet location, not many other tenants if it happened to be in a block of flats, what I call walking distance to…

Shelter Cat Update!

We’re at the in-laws for Thanksgiving weekend. My 9 week-old daughter met her 15 week-old cousin for the first time.

👍. Keep in mind that this is their Actual Job and a skill set they must have to perform it (passport/visa assistance). Of course they have connections to the Canadian/UK embassy so limit your shock when they come through for you! (The whole One Job meme)

If it is Edinburgh university then call the international student office—they were able to help me with loss documentation (2015).