My brother "proposed" to my sister in law this year after having been with her 5 years. She moved with him after he was promoted but only after she told him flat out that she wasn't going to move for just a boyfriend. Then she had my mom email my brother links to what rings she liked. And about a thousand winks and…

The better question might be: "How often do women pop the question?" You're making a mighty big assumption that it's always men who do. Look at it another way: I know plenty of couples where A.) it's a mutually arrived at decision between two adults B.) it's the woman who brings the topic of discussion up (which is…

I proposed to my hubby, in the sense that while at burning man, I drunkenly suggested that if we got married, we would get my parents off our backs and also get a lot of new kitchen gadgets. He drunkenly agreed with me. We have been married for almost 4 years and my parents quit accusing us of living in sin finally.…

Fuck that, I popped the question in 1999.

Seriously. That is why I state loudly and often that if I were ever proposed to in public I would say no on principle even if it were Tom Hiddleston who asked me.

I don't think it should be or HAS to be the guy's job to propose. And I'm sure more and more women do the proposing these days and that's awesome and cool and yay. But for me, I'd be worried that I was taking a moment away from the guy that he might have looked forward to all his life. I mean 90% of the Corporate…

Disrespectful to whom? You're not putting on brownface. You're not pretending to be something you're not. Even if you were in Africa, it wouldn't be offensive.

I'm sure you'll find that quite a few women have.

Question for everyone. WOULD YOU RATHER (a) Make a public proposal and the proposee rejects you as gently as possible and then everyone watches you cry OR (b) Make a public proposal and the proposee says yes and the crowd claps and cheers and you go home overwhelmed by joy and happiness and then the proposee says,…

Cornering someone in public, in front of a crowd, and hitting them with a surprise marriage proposal is not romantic. It is cruel, and a little bit manipulative ("they'll totally be less likely to say no in front of all these people!"). I really wish this would become A Thing That Never Happens Again.

I say this with all sincerity: I will never, ever tire of monogrammed thermos jokes.

Oh God, THIS. People are out of control with this 'disrespecting cultures' finger pointing. It's like walking a damned minefield, and for what? If I travel somewhere exotic, say to the Middle East or South America, and I buy a piece of jewelry, am I disrespecting their culture if I wear it? For fuck's sake... The…

Until I hear from an actual doctor that this is a thing, there's no way I'm buying it.

As long as you aren't wearing something to mock another culture, you can wear literally whatever you want. There is no copyright on style. As literally anyone and anybody can spontaneously "decide" what offends them, someone taking offense is pretty meaningless when it comes to clothing. A conservative Christian takes…

You can't take the culture, nor should you want to.

It's a fair point burn made though. You can't get upset when they acknowledge cultural appropriation and how to avoid it AND when they ignore it completely. That isn't reasonable. What would your ideal situation in this case?

In one's own country, it's a cultural signifier. In a foreign one, it's fashion.

So... you would like people like the Vogue readership to stop being clueless, and yet criticise them for publishing an article on how to avoid cultural appropriation- "it would have been nice if they had just focused on the fashion in general instead of making Sall explain cultural appropriation to white people."

Verily, it is right and just that the bullshit be callethed in such scenarios.

Don't help someone hurt someone else. Especially don't do so for your own pleasure.