I know I did somethings in my young adult life that I regret and am ashamed of - I’m forever thankful that social media wasn’t around when I was younger. I would hate to have those things follow me through my life, especially since I have done my time to be a useful member of society (not that I never was, but I…

Very true! So we agree we’re dealing with faulty data.

I’m so sorry I wasn’t sufficiently traumatized to fit your narrative.

It was a relevant response to another comment, not a justification.

Thanks, but I have had plenty of counseling over the years, and I’m pretty sure I’m more aware of myself and my issues and what has affected my life more than a random poster on jezebel.

You’re right - that’s not the context I meant, so let me clarify. We don’t hear about the men who raped someone, were never reported, and never raped again. So there is a potential data gap in what we know.

I am a rape victim. It does not define my life, nor does it haunt me or affect my sexuality.

Thank you! I think it is extremely insulting and patronizing to assume a woman’s life will forever be doomed because of a horrible incident. I’ve been raped, but it was not the worst thing that ever happened to me.

I’m sorry that happened to you, and I truly appreciate your response.

But how can you rely on surveys (self-reporting is questionable), and rape kits if there was never any report made in the first place?

Thanks for your thoughtful and enlightening response. So sorry for trying to get some additional information to get a clearer picture of things.

Please don’t diagnose me based on my posts. It literally happened over 25 years ago, date-rape was barely even a thing, and I talked a bunch of shit about the dude, and made fun of him in public - which was quite therapeutic. I do suffer from depression and PTSD, but that started well before this event. Compared to…

Yes, I’ve had many responses pointing that out. Perhaps I’m being a bit naive.

I’m not informed enough about NFL players and their conduct to make any comparison.

Thank you!

If only I had more stars to give. (and I seriously hope this doesn’t get me banned from Jezebel again)

I would say this punishment didn’t feel lenient to him, but again, I could be wrong, just hopeful.

He put himself in the situation of being a rapist. Sorry I didn’t word it so specifically. And I may be wrong, but I’d like to think gettting caught and punished may be a deterrent in the future.

I see so many comments talking about how the victim will suffer for the rest of her life. I am a survivor of date-rape, so it wasn’t that traumatic, but it certainly hasn’t affected my life or haunted me. I have a hard time believing all rape victims suffer for the rest of their lives (although I’m sure many do).
I’d…

Hopefully not. Many victims recover from rape and have happy fulfilling lives.