I know you’re in the UK, so there’s maybe some difference. But from the American white men I know and grew up around—including friends and former friends of the white male I married—they feel like they’re owed. A lot. This was the primary motivation former white male friends are no longer my friends. It doesn’t matter…

Told they’re super cool and awesome growing up but they aren’t and are instead stuck in a shitty job like most people?

The half Asian ones especially ! There are entire websites about all the white supremacists with Asian wives. We will be dealing with their demon spawn one way or another. Who remembers Daniel Holtzclaw.

All of this pleases me.

The Fernandez part of this story doesn’t surprise me at all. In 2018, can we (black folk) call out the anti-blackness in Hispanic and Asian communities more often? Shit is not going to get any better as long as folks can benefit from black struggle and culture, stamp themselves with the POC label and then take their…

“Do they really think women sit around and plot on how they are going to marry us, have children with us, have us cheat on them\commit domestic violence\pull some other bullshit and then file for divorce...all to get half of that 1993 Toyota Celica and 30$ a paycheck from a measly low wage job? I seriously don’t get…

A White guy at lunch today tried to argue that somehow feminism is responsible for absurd alimony\child support payments and that the current system was what “women wanted”. Where do people get these stupid fucking ideas?

Oh god! That would absolutely freak me out! I’ve heard too many stories about women being assaulted during that car-home transition to ever trust a dude in that moment. I’m glad he was just oblivious and not actually threatening, and I hope he learned something.

I got home REALLY late one night and was getting my daughter and all her things out of the car. I tunred around to go in the house and BAM...this dude was standing literally right behind me. It freaked me out so bad I almost maced his ass. Yet for some reason, he couldn’t understand how that wasn’t a good time to…

I can’t speak for all women, but also: I’m not that mysterious. When I met my current SO I signaled my interest pretty clearly and strongly; he felt pretty confident that I was appreciating his attention and it was OK to proceed due to me openly saying things like, “I like you”, “This is fun”, and “Let’s do this…

Just a couple of rules of thumb about how to deal with women:

I can’t with him, half the time he’s dressed like Pumpkin Puss or Aunt Bunny.  I can take a little quirk but I what I can’t take is congenital stupid. If he couldn’t play ball he’d be working in his neighborhood bodega as the “sweep up guy”. Just shut up.

This is going to sound like I am Stretch Armstrong-ing it up... Being called a ‘female’ is annoying. But being called a ‘female’ while non-Black women are being called ‘girls/gals’, ‘women’, ‘chicks’ or even ‘ladies’ (which is said by the same men, who will call me ‘female’) is pretty-fucking-infuriating.

One of my favorite things to quote from MLK. Sometimes I just post it on FB to remind people

The fact my classmates and I had to read “Letter from a Birmingham Jail” in high school seems amazing to me now that I’m older. Especially considering our school was majority white, but not overwhelmingly so and my English teachers were white.

THIS IS THE MLK THAT NEVER EVER GETS QUOTED, THE ONE LOCKED IN JAIL, SMUGGLING TRUTH OUT ONE SHEET AT A TIME.

“First, I must confess that over the last few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro’s great stumbling block in the stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen’s Council-er or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate who is…

This! I posted on Twitter about side eyeing white folks at work because the Charlottesville folks looked like the people I work with and some guy went back and forth with me for 3 days about why I shouldn’t “hate” all white people and that he’s not like those racists, he’s a #goodwhiteperson, so I shouldn’t feel that…

It’s why serial killers and mass shooters always get the “well he SEEMED like a nice guy!”

Case in point: I’m in the office break room decompressing while CNN drones on in the background. A co-worker comes in and we talk a bit about the hurricane and whatnot - we both have family in the Houston area. CNN cuts to Trump telling the Gov. of TX something to the effect of “After this is all said and done, we…