Blaine: “I have never raped any woman, and I definitely didn’t rape any woman in 2004!”

It’s the same thinking that makes it easier to get a job when you already have a job than when you don’t: “What do other people know about this person that I don’t?”

Thanks- I really needed to hear that. It’s been even harder than it should be because I’m in flux right now but all my friends are either working at fancy jobs or kicking ass in their own PhD programs. And most of them are moving in with their significant others or otherwise moving forward in life and they seem so…

It seems that Spike was saying that men who don’t have a lot of successs in their dating lives imagine that other people are having the times of their lives and judging them negatively. Also, I am unsure if Spike is male or female. Elsewhere, Spike speaks pretty knowledgably about the lesbian experience. Spike might…

40 Year Old Virgin has gotten to me at times, even making me fear becoming 40 or so before getting a single relationship (I’m a 25-year old man). Luckily, I don’t have any friends like those in the movie, so there’s that. This is certainly great advice and a new take on things, especially for someone like me, and I…

This reminds me of my own twist-catcall story: When I was an idiotic 20-something I burned my arm badly in a kitchen accident. I ended up throwing on a sleeveless dress and draping a winter coat over my shoulders and running to a clinic, where they bandaged me up and gave me some painkillers. As I was stumbling home…

I read the whole thing and wow it’s so sickening to see how he does things. He’s exactly like a predator looking to lure in his next prey. The statement about him being able to turn his charm on and off was so disconcerting to read. There are men in high up positions like this in every industry and it’s frightening to…

One of the most effective, nuanced, candid, insightful, and well composed of these horrible stories. Good on her for pulling back the curtain just a bit more.

No, everything about the advice to LW2 was terrible. “You’ve been together 2 years, you both want marriage and kids, you’re in your 30s, and you may have years of immigration issues to deal with. Definitely put off an important talk about your future for 5 years.”

I once left a horrible date (dude showed up 40 minutes late, wearing a bandana) and as I was walking home from the metro station some dude leaned out of his car and shouted “Ayo miss you look nice tonight!” as I crossed the street. I remembered feeling weirdly vindicated that my catcaller was showing better manners…

It really is exhausting. Funny story, my fiance and I met because he was literally the ONLY male customer (he was a regular) who didn’t try flirt/leer/harass/grab me or my female colleagues when i was working as a barmaid. He was polite and respectful, and it was such strange behaviour that he stood out of the crowd,…

I’m 24, have never been in a relationship, and just dropped out of what was my dream grad program (I realized the field wasn’t for me, but making the decision completely broke my heart). So I’m moving back in with my parents and just sort of walk around feeling like a complete loser all the time.

I would also point out that a lot of these guys get burned in high school and then isolate themselves in college. They can easily end up in a job where they don’t have a lot of women who they are close with. Makes it easy to look at popular media and high school dating and conclude that’s what reality is like. Ideas…

There’s a lot of overlap between guys who want to be respectful towards women and guys who think that if they express interest in a woman is inherently disrespectful. This causes much confusion.

This is great advice.

I read that one and thought “Hah hah, beat you, 35 and single, nerr nerr” which probably says a lot about why I’m single.

And remember, these events that we’re supposed to cross off our list by specific ages are arbitrary and pushed on us by media like tv shows and films 

Right? Honestly, it was always a great surprise, I was so appreciative and it gave me a shot of confidence, and made my day. Every single time.

I have a message for Veteran: I promise, I swear, I know from life experience, you are NOT the only one. I’m older than you and found that your experience with dating is not uncommon among men and women. And I have very similar issues with my parent that continue to have a negative impact on me. But as a woman, I can…

*Reads answer to LW1*