YES! Keanu is so undervalued. He is not a great actor, but by all accounts he is a fantastic human.

You know what? Keanu Reeves.

because she had the audacity to declare to all the men of the world they would never be able to put their dicks in her mouth and that is an affront to the very essence of modern maleness - all mouths everywhere should someday aspire to hold their cocks.

There's a specific term for this among queer girls: pillow princess.

AND - the dude snacking at her deli tray does not seem to be complaining so why are we even discussing?

Oh god, the downward head press. Ballsmcgee knows good and well to NEVER even TOUCH my head when I'm going down on him. It creeps me the fuck out when you see men touching women's heads or holding their hair while they're getting blown - it looks like you're fucking petting her or something.

I mean... Don't all couples agree to what they will or won't do at some point? Doesn't everyone have some kind of sex they don't like? You either agree to go without that or end the relationship if you can't. I thought that was called being a grown up. You don't always get everything you want so you either decide…

I don't think she's being selfish. She's setting out that she 1) doesn't do BJs, and 2) will only date a man that gives her oral sex. Nothing wrong with setting up some relationship parameters, like you said.

Blow jobs are a privilege not a right. I enjoy blowing my bf but he is one of those mid 30s inexperienced guys and had only been asked to perform on a lady a couple of times. In his defense he also tried to stop me when I went down on him when we were waiting for a meteor shower early in our relationship because he…

I saw this last week, and the whole thing just enrages me. The fact that she doesn't want to do it but expects men to eat her out (Tracy, you make hella good points about why that's okay, and I'm a lot less pissed about it now but I was seeing red last week). The fucking disgusting misogynistic responses to it, like…

This is why I refuse to go to the gym. I do yoga and crunches on my living room floor twice a day and walk/hike in the spring/summer/fall months. I just..can't...stand... being stared/gawk at and hit on despite my wedding ring, in the fugging gym. My teen has a gym membership and she wears her earphones if she's alone…

I will admit that I have some MPDGish tendencies. I'd like to see a realistic portrayal of this in a film though, where Male Protagonist eventually gets Tired of Your Kinda Crazy Ass, Alcon-Pixie Dream Girl.

I don't know why but I have always had a weakness for manic pixie dream girl characters. No matter how cheesy. I'm going to armchair-psychoanalyse myself for a second and say it's because by bff in my early-mid teens was a MPDG. The MPDG fantasy of someone whimsical and dressed in homemade clothes flitting into your…

A great primer on writing, Thorin, and a really good read to boot. As someone who wrote a lot of academic papers in grad school, I'd even recommend this post as something to be distributed on the first day at orientation. That being said, I would add one item from my very subjective view:

Very helpful. My problem is focusing on one project at a time. I'm trying to write several things of several styles/formats/genres and I jump back and forth. I tell myself moving around is keeping me fresh for each one but none seem to be getting near completion.

Ha, ha ha, haaaa. Try being a female scientist half way to a Ph.D in plant genetics, trapped in a conversation about GMOs at a party with some white guy with dreads. The layers of insult and irony in this scenario, which is somehow a fixture of my life....

I feel like men are particularly prone to overreacting when it comes to finances. I've always felt like finances were a cold hard truth, when for my husband finances and money are a very personal thing. I'll say "We need to work on our budget" and he hears "You don't make enough money." What??

I've taken to looking at my husband like a madman and telling him he needs to calm down so we can discuss things rationally whenever he starts getting upset or frustrated. The look I get in response is PRICELESS.