It's such a weird, confusing feeling. I feel like I just keep hoping that I'll have a random epiphany and everything will start making sense but nope!

Not all of us were so lucky to be destined for each other from birth, Jaime!

This is really good advice and I appreciate it a lot. It's just been really difficult because I know intellectually that it's not a huge deal if I don't want to have sex for awhile but in practice, I feel simultaneously really weird and alienated but also like I'm fulfilling the ultimate stereotype of the frigid bitch…

I will answer your questions because if I am going to bring this all up on a public forum I might as well go for it!

I want to date but I haven't done a lot of it because of lack of opportunity. I think I just need to find a way to go about it in a way that doesn't just intersect with hookup culture (i.e. Tinder).

Thank you for the advice. I think I ended up having one night stands mostly because when I don't have one night stands, I don't end up having a lot of sex because I don't date a lot (because people don't ask me out, because social awkwardness+a permanently angry facial expression) and then I was afraid that if I…

Curious George is trash. I would only make my children watch that if I hated them.

As long as it's not just me, I don't care! As long as other people share in my suffering!

I don't know if I've ever met anyone where I was like, "I desperately want to have sex with this person" rather than "I could have sex with this person if the opportunity arose and it would be okay." Some of them have tried to do things to focus on me but I honestly can't tell if they're bad at it or if I'm just not…

Yeah, a big problem is that it's hard to find people my own age who are interested in dating before hooking up…and I'm also a very private person (and socially awkward—this is the AV Club) so entering THE BONE ZONE with people I'm already friends with feels super weird to me.

I masturbate but I didn't start doing that until I was nineteen or so, which might be weird but it also might just be because I didn't know women even COULD masturbate until I was about 15 (thanks American sex education system). Sex for me feels like things are happening that I know should be enjoyable but instead…

That's definitely the approach I have tried to take to things—I just end up not making friends with people I can or want to hook up with and then I am back at square one. I think I might just need to get past shitty college existence before I can know for sure what's going on.

I'm at the "crying in my car afterward for no reason" stage so right about now I would happily settle for enjoyable enough. I would even settle for occasionally enjoyable!

Thank you! And I think a huge part of it for me is that I'm just at that age where having sex and triumphantly talking about sex dominates a huge part of conversation and it doubles down on the shitty feeling.

Ah, but labels really would make life so much easier. :(

Yeah, I think I'm just still trying to figure out whether or not I've just had really bad luck or if I just do inherently dislike sex. I would really prefer for it not to be the latter because it's a really shitty feeling that makes me feel like I'm missing out on some huge part of human existence.

I guess I always felt like asexuality didn't apply to me because I'm not inherently repulsed by sex, I've always just been repulsed by the sex that I've had? If that makes sense.

Yeah, I guess I know that in theory, but things haven't really changed at all since I was 17 and first started having sex.

I've put a lot of thought into whether or not I'm gay and I think I am definitely interested in women in the abstract but equally as disinterested in practice (though I've never had the opportunity to have sex with a woman…online dating options are very sparse).

Okay, because I am a little bit tipsy and I had a terrible one night stand this week, and also because I'm hoping to get advice from people who might have more life experience than me: when is sex going to stop being horrible? I'm a woman in my early twenties and I don't think I've ever had a sexual encounter where I…