It sucked the energy out of the episode, too. Total drag. Especially with how much fun I found the b-plot. Can we keep writing Iris as reckless, funny, and getting more than a little cynical about all this metahuman stuff?

Yeah, it blows out my circuits a lot that way too. But the characters feel real and like people and a lot of the smaller beats hit home (by "smaller" I mean things like Jasper struggling with the idea, struggling and losing, that one of his best friends willingly killed the woman he loved, or Raven reconciling herself…

I think it's the writers(/Barry's newfound self-knowledge) putting the brakes on the "maybe we're just meant to be together" train that seemed to be pulling out of the station. By reaffirming that their connection is real notwithstanding any magic destiny bullshit, it reframes anything romantic that develops between…

I think the latter is really the problem. If an orgasm faker comes into contact with someone who's chill about sex and doesn't burden them with orgasm expectation, then probably the problem will eventually sort itself out (even if I start out faking orgasms with this person, eventually I'll probably realize that i…

I don't endorse faking orgasms per se, but I don't think they're the problem so much as they are a symptom of pressure and hangups about sex. People fake orgasms, I would suggest, in order to assuage their partners' anxieties about performance, and probably also as a time-management tactic ("I'm feeling pretty…

I though Dichen's version of the same character was really great too. And that sequence (Topher's birthday gift, hanging out with the only person who understands him) remains a favourite, it's just the right combination of sweet, sad, and a little creepy.

The first thing that really tripped me up in that sequence is how insanely ripped he is. It just didn't match the squirrelly stoner weirdo persona at all, and I became suddenly uneasy with the character. I'm sure that was the planned response, too, as if I recall he takes off his jacket (and is wearing a sleeveless…

This is a good suggestion. It also takes some of the pressure off her that a direct approach might create - if she's interested you'll probably get the sense of it pretty quickly, and likewise if she's not, as she'll be able to communicate that without having to say no directly, which is stressful for some people.

Totally this. What if U2 had stopped with War?

This might seem like a weird answer, but take a lot of selfies. I did a 365 project last year where I made myself take and post a selfie every day for a year (though on Instagram where I have about 4 followers, not like to everyone I know on Facebook), and I learned a lot about what my face looks like, and how to make…

Maybe I'm totally wrong on this, but I feel like being more open is better than complex schemes to "randomly" encounter each other again - though I'll admit I don't practice what I preach here at all, I basically never approach anybody directly.

I feel like part of the advice column gig might be to provide a bit of balance. So cut 'em some slack when they're being hard on themselves, but provide some backbone when they're being doormats.

Happy birthday!

Weirdly, that made it worse for me? Like, everyone's grief is exacerbated by how solvable a problem this has been in the past (but didn't seem to be now)? Quentin's reaction, total denial, was completely rational in the Arrow universe, but tough for me to watch.

I don't find The Flash emotionally engaging at all. I like it, but it doesn't get me that way - for the most part the characters in it don't seem real to me and I appreciate them more like, well, comic book characters than like humans.

That's a risk I'm willing to take.

Infinite and timeless force traps man in pocket dimension to lay epic guilt trip about visiting his mother's grave maybe now and then and for god's sake bring her some flowers or something you weren't raised by wolves.

That's not at all fair and also hilarious.

See, I read that as a gesture to Barry realizing that it didn't really matter. They mean a lot to each other and that'll always be the case. Maybe that means they'll inevitably get destiny-married, who knows, but what I got from the scene is that even if that doesn't happen she's still one of the most important people…

He needed to be bulletproof! And our research suggested that an articulate white man who kills people was an ideal presidential candidate. Maybe we'll use that Microsoft twitter chat bot for his conversational skills next time.