Then or now?

That's a good suggestion. I've tried text as a way to communicate, as he seems to appreciate that method!!! But it's frustrating when I want to talk about things in person. I guess in life I can't have everything.

But what about my stuff? Should I expose my stuff to Ex Wars? Sex Wars sounds like more fun. Though, I agree—setting fire to his expensive stuff would definitely get him to acknowledge my existence.

Good things come together all at once. Take the interview, see what happens. Evel is right that you should explore all your options.

Yes. It was pretty upsetting. I'm still reeling from it. However, while your advice is satisfying viscerally, I feel like I need a sense of closure…I know that there's no REASON to have closure, really, but I'd like to talk about it in person so that I can emotionally process it. I can't figure out how to get him…

I'm not a gay man, but from a straight female perspective: men fart all the time during and after straight sex. And it's annoying, but women have been putting up with it forever. It's going to happen, have a sense of humor about it. If the dude you're with doesn't have that sense of humor, then fuck him!

I'm sorry. Good luck to your nieces and nephews. Try to be a good uncle to them, and don't fall back into your old pattern of being Switzerland for your parents, etc. There are counselors and therapists that can help you set boundaries. You need to protect yourself from the circle of blah that your family is…

Dear Savage Dik,