The horrifying truth is that something like this could so easily happen to anyone. It can happen to smart, capable, sensible, responsible people. It doesn’t happen to women (or men) who make ‘poor choices’ about who they date. How many women do we all know who have had a guy get scary on them? It’s happened to me,…

To be fair, I am a man and I am also afraid that men will kill me. I sometimes wonder what the fuck is wrong with my sex.

Men are murdered at a much higher rate than women.

One time I had an older guy roll up at my house, ring my bell. I didn’t open the door, just kind of shouted “CAN I HELP YOU” through the door and he gave me some line about how he is new to the neighborhood and what day was trash day and allla dat shit. I was like Wednesdays, dude, OK BYEEEEEE. Like fucking call 311…

I had a guy do similar to me, 6 dates and I broke it off as I found myself becoming increasingly intimidated by him and how intense he was being. I was super careful to let him down gently, told him I just “wasn’t feeling it” and from what he had told me, we had different life goals (his included many children, mine…

A guy asked me out: he was in my class, handsome and funny, very clever. We dated, and at each point I felt under so much pressure to conform to his ideal person. He would get pissed for petty reasons, denigrate me, a few times he physically hurt me during sex way past the point of enjoyable. He was completely…

My friend was dating a very controlling guy in college.

I’ll never forget when I was dating this man three years ago and one day he proceeded to get strangely aggressive toward me and controlling. I looked him in the eye, tried my best not to look scared and proceeded as normal with cooking, and he backed off of his “weird mood.” But I felt like I escaped something. Then…

I don’t care if they have bowling balls for testicles. Stay out of other people’s allotted spaces. I have huge tits, bigger than any balls I’ve ever seen, but you know what? Somehow I manage to keep my arms within the confines of one seat on all transport I use. I don’t splay out and expect everyone else to…

Germany has these classes as well, but so many people have come in that it’s been difficult to even register everyone, let alone send them to integration classes.

Still, what happened here in Cologne isn’t an education issue. These guys knew what they were doing was wrong— assuming that not stealing from people or…

Um, when was the last time 500 women (at least) were assaulted en masse in one night, in one place, by an organised group (or groups) of men? The Tahrir Squre gang rapes and assaults are the only one I can think of. The Puerto Rican Day parade attacks come to mind as well but they pale in comparison to Tahrir and…

I emailed Jezebel this afternoon after seeing the BBC article, and after several days of feeling appalled that there hadn’t been a single follow up to what is a huge story for anyone following women’s issues. I’m assuming others here did as well and they finally realised that maybe having 4 articles in two days on…

and yet we never talk about this, and its not the right wing trying to silence women. Its the left wing, (its our own people) saying we need to shut up about the rape of almost 1000 women. I mean it really tells you how crazy the world has gotten when liberals are telling you to be quiet about the rape of almost 1000…

hell yes! I mean i know we all hate people complaining about political correctness here at Jezebel. But like this whole story is the textbook example of political correctness gone mad.

Religious and cultural background absolutelty matter because they are explantory factors for behavior. Period. You can isolate these things as causal factors without being a racist, Islamophobic asshole, but ignoring the fact that numerous women were sexually assaulted by a specific group of men because that fact…

More than a hundred now, plus many in Stuttgard and Hamburg.

Looks like the posters here are also trying to deflect and silence. I wonder why?

Anyone denying the perpetrators were majority North African/Arab or just referring to them as “men” (which many here love to do) is also exploiting this for political correctness points.

It IS an immigration issue. When I get hit on in a really disrespectful way here in western europe, it is almost always from men from the middle east or nothern africa. Their culture IS more patriarchal - denying that is just positive racism. I am sorry, I grew up in a middle eastern family, I know the culture at…

I live in Holland and they are reporting here that atleast 90 women have pressed charges with the police in Keulen and there have been similar cases reported in multiple other cities.