Whenever I’m in a rough patch in a relationship I find myself half-way wishing that the guy would do something that I could point a finger to and say, “That’s abusive.” That way I would have a definitive reason to end it, rather than wondering if I should “work” more on the relationship. Well, you are unfortunately in…

Oh wow. that’s a lot of stuff to unpack. For me, personally, I couldn’t continue a relationship with someone who told me that he just didn’t find me attractive and wanted me to work on myself to be more attractive. like you knew what you were getting into when we got together, mister. (Within reason) :( I’d need to…

To me the bigger problem is that he wants you to change. Like, if you’re not his physical type maybe that’s not his fault. But it’s certainly not your fault either. And I don’t think a good guy would tell a woman that and then ask her to change. It’s cruel and unhealthy, especially in a world where eating…

Prince Charles cheated on Diana with Camilla. No matter how gorgeous you are and how 'attracted' your mate is, if they want to cheat they will cheat. It's not always based on physical attraction.

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I unfriended someone today over this rather than rage-stroke over it. I had a childless great aunt who was a million times the parent to me that my birth father ever was or ever will be, and I was essentially step-parent (live-in, but not married) for 5 fucking years, but since neither she nor…

Ugggghhhhh, this ridiculous, hair-trigger outrage is exhausting to me. Kim probably has done more for her “children” than my father ever did for me, and yet, people don’t get angry when he calls himself a parent. So she’s not a biological parent. Why does it matter? I’m baffled that this is even a story.

I nursed my sister through her high-risk pregnancy and helped raise my nephew. I did it full time (raised my nephew) from 6 months when my sister had to return to work to 3 yo when we enrolled him in preschool so she wouldn’t have to worry about a stranger raising her child. I contribute in financial, emotional and…

woman does thing, is happy. society burns.

Extreme right wingers loooooove tokenism. They hate Obama with a searing passion (because he is black, let’s be honest) but aren’t racist because their favorite athlete is [insert hypervisible black football player]. Sometimes I think Carson is pandering to the masses because there is no way in hell he can be such a…

American Ninja Warrior, a sort of modern and souped-up version of American Gladiators

wait, I thought Hermann “Gropemeister” Cain was their go-to black dude

But he’s actively reaching out to those with differing opinions and bringing up points they could possibly agree on like a proper politician. Also not doing any trash talking about other candidates.

Really sick of editors consistently choosing to elevate women that endorse sexist opinions, minorities with racist opinions, etc while silencing other minority voices for being “controversial.” It’s the media equivalent of claiming to have one black friend.

So, if I’m not sufficiently physically attractive, I can’t ask for anything from my potential partner? And if I decline to go along with that, the response isn’t just, “Well, then you might end up staying single...” but, “Yeah, you need to examine your biases...” and perhaps a bit of shaming on top of that?

Back when I was single, obvs I was trying to get laid.

—For a man to openly reject a woman because he found her fat would be not only accepted but expected and probably applauded.

—For a man to openly reject a woman because he found her fat would be social suicide.—

Nope. Tall guys only. My therapist asked me about it once and I just doubled down. I won’t be reasoned with.

Sure, then when they arrive at their next relationship and take that out on a whole new woman who didn’t find them unattractive at all, they perpetuate their own disappointment. Rejection is hard for everyone but bitterness is universally unattractive.

I’m pretty short and I’m not at all turned off by short guys - my last boyfriend was barely 5’5”. But you know what is really unattractive? Short guys who are furious about it and think that they were betrayed by the universe, that they ought to have had some much better life than whatever disappointment they’ve…